I don't like where I live aibu? I haven't liked it for the 6,5years I've lived here. I had a brief interlude of about one month of feeling positive and ok about the location when we decided to stay put and not move back to London then coronavirus has all kicked off and it's increased my anxiety and claustrophobia about being here which I thought I had shaken off.
I am surprised by how I feel too as on paper it sounds idyllic. 45 mins to London but countryside (ish). We moved because we have kids. I don't like it because I feel like I'm losing my sodding mind with boredom. There is nothing to do. You have to drive everywhere. It's not true countryside you can hear the m25 constantly and a busy a road. There is no diversity and it's hugely conservative and probably pro brexit too. I am aware lockdown has impacted massively on my mental health by not being able to escape it. I know my negative feelings are also a bit muddled up with motherhood and loss of identity and freedom and all that too as we moved just before I gave birth (don’t ever do that - big mistake!)
Everything is up on the air now though. My DH is working from home. We're hoping this can continue but predicting he'll have to go in once or twice a week. So we could move further away if he doesn’t have to be in every day. But would it be same issues somewhere else? I adore London so I also am not sure I want to be too far away though we have mooted the idea of just moving to a smaller city to see if that would suit us better.
I feel very confused as I want my kids to have some space and nature around them but then also what about when they are teens? I also think some life in somewhere you live is good too! I veer from wanting the idyllic proper country life - no neighbours to bring back on London. Why can I not figure out what’s important and what will suit us better?
Where do you think is the best place for teens to be? If you love where you live why? Would we completely crazy to move back to London? I'm not sure that's the best thing to do either as my DH doesn't want to spend anymore than we need to on mortgage etc. Just waffling really. Fed up this issue has reared its head again. Our families are opposite ends of the country which doesn’t help. Mine have moved away from my childhood home so have no pull back there. I’m a lost nomad!
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slimecentury · 18/06/2020 07:50
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