Dd is just turned 16. She's been difficult recently. Has a group of friends who spend most nights smoking weed and drinking vodka. I have only found this out recently when dd has been partaking in the same. Normally we get on really well and she tells me lots of personal things and that is lovely that she feels like she trusts me.
However since lockdown has been relaxed slightly she's been meeting up with some of these mates and they've being partying on the street or gone back to an older friend of a friends house. I had to collect her the other week and she was in a right state. Drunk, stoned and crying and said how sorry she was. Begged me not to shout at her (which I didnt) and promised to not get like that again. Only several times since then she has gone and done the same but not as much. Last weekend she was up and out all night. I found out as she kept sneaking back into the house and out again. I've bollocked her, said she will lose all privileges, tried to reason with her and say how much this behaviour effects the whole family etc etc but tonight she's met a friend again and tried to spin me some bullshit that she's staying there but they arent drinking. I've said no you've to be back by 10 but I have no idea if she will.
So I've told her if she carries on like this she will not be able to continue to live here and upset everyone else (she has a younger sibling). She doesnt think I mean it. Tbh I'm at a loss. I'm pretty sure someone will say well dont let her go out then! But she wont comply unless she wants to. I tried in the past locking the doors and she climbed out of the window. She's a nightmare. Am I terrible for threatening to kick her out (her words not mine)
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Livingmybestliferight · 17/06/2020 20:53
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