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PrettyTricky Tue 16-Jun-20 16:54:12

I'm losing the will now.

3 months into this homeschooling, working from home, providing every.single.fucking.meal, doing all the endless housework - and it truly is endless, having to put up with DC and DH being here all.the.damn.time.
And now we're worrying about the finances and the future of both our businesses, and I have a sore back. It's a shit show.

I mean, I'm trying. I'm making the bloody best of it and I even had a week early on where I felt I was maybe even quite enjoying it, but hells bells I'm nearing a sanity tipping point now.

My mood is as dark as my roots and I'm pouring a drink on a Tuesday. I've gained a few unwanted pounds due to a ridiculous compulsion to bake (made somehow even more desperate by scarcity of ingredients and avidly buying wherever possible). This is despite hauling my ass on a daily 3 mile walk to at least feel like there is a world out there.

Anyone else feeling like they're veering close to the point of losing the plot now? When will it end?!?!?!

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formerbabe Tue 16-Jun-20 16:57:52

Yes I've absolutely had enough. If schools don't open till September, it's nearly three months to go. I might lose my mind.

Really fucking sick of people who try to make out that you must be an awful parent for wanting some time away from your kids.

Six months without any break is so hard

HellsBills Tue 16-Jun-20 17:14:08

100% with you. Working from home, we're back to 'normal' capacity business as usual with no apparent consideration given to the fact many of us are also teaching our children. Its not just 'childcare' I teach them every day, for hours, because if I don't they will have had a 6 month gap in education and they're too young to learn without adult input. It's hell! How are we supposed to do both?!

RoseMartha Tue 16-Jun-20 17:30:03

Sending a 🤗🤗🤗

It is tough, one of my dc is SN and I usually feel the six weeks in the summer is like six months, so far this has felt as if they never went to school at all.

GertrudeCB Tue 16-Jun-20 17:31:45

If your DH is there why do you have to do all the cooking and housework?

AllTheWhoresOfMalta Tue 16-Jun-20 17:34:07

It’s the every meal thing that’s killing me too. I miss restaurants and cafes.

Bargainhuntbore Tue 16-Jun-20 17:34:20

Im with you.

I work from home. DH took voluntary redundancy last year and was looking for a job when lockdown started. He’s under my feet, his stuff everywhere. 3 kids, 1 in yr 7 and loves his bedroom too much -fed up of telling him to go out for fresh air. 16 & 18 yr olds who are also bored and looking forward to college and uni starting.

No shops open, 5 mile travel restrictions (which fucking sucks).

Time to get cracking again.

Bargainhuntbore Tue 16-Jun-20 17:37:07

@GertrudeCB just let the girl have a rant. No need to be a relationship counsellor .

GertrudeCB Tue 16-Jun-20 17:40:48

@Bargainhuntbore I was going for a indignant on her behalf vibe , but I suppose that's me told.

Parmavioletmum Tue 16-Jun-20 17:40:56

I'm with you. I get why we're doing it and I'm in the vulnerable group but God this is shit now!

Vinorosso74 Tue 16-Jun-20 17:42:40

I hear you. DP has been furloughed so that has taken the pressure off regarding home learning.
I've had too much bad news in the last couple of weeks. My dad is in hospital with heart problems (awaiting news on what they can do) in a different part of the country and I can't even go and see him. Finding it very tough right now.

LaurieMarlow Tue 16-Jun-20 17:43:52

Totally with you. If the schools don’t find a way to open properly in the summer, there’ll be protests in the streets.

My business is expecting me back in the office two days. I can only do one right now realistically. Their patience won’t be long running out.

Blankiefan Tue 16-Jun-20 17:48:03

Can you or DH or both reduce your working hours to take the edge off? Maybe both go down to 80% for a few months? Or both of you could take some Parental Leave? It's unpaid but you're each entitled to 4 weeks per year for each child.

MusicMother Tue 16-Jun-20 17:52:09

Yes, so so much! We're Scotland so definitely no school until August, just had confirmation from council that even then it will be one day a week with a second every three weeks. I could cry. Will never forgive myself for the fact that our choices as adults have meant my kids have spent this time locked in an inner city flat with parents who are so terrified of losing the business we've spent a decade building that we are absolutely useless. Strength to you all.

PrettyTricky Tue 16-Jun-20 17:53:41

Thanks @GertrudeCB I know you meant that on my behalf. Knowing my maths limits and dh's culinary limits means he does the maths and science and I do the cooking, safer for everyone that way!

@Vinorosso74 sorry about your dad, hope you manage to see him soon.

@blankiefan it's not the work that's the problem really, it's all the other frustrations.

Just hoping I can manage to see my elderly parents soon, they are at the other end of the country and it just adds to the whole fed up-ness of all of this now. I totally appreciate its for good reason, and we've kept to the rules, but jeez it's a slog now.

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Spodge Tue 16-Jun-20 18:02:05

What wouldn't I give for a night out in a restaurant? Imagine - no prep, no serving, no clearing up. Just one sodding night when I can eat, leave and go to bed.

HaggisTheGreat Tue 16-Jun-20 18:14:02

Jesus, yes. I’ve really hit a (so far) metaphorical wall since they’ve said primary schools won’t reopen to all the years. (It’s not just about the schools, just for me that was the tipping point before anyone tells me off for not relishing every minute with DC.) The thing that’s really getting me down is I don’t see how/when/why it will end. If the schools say they can’t accommodate the kids now, what will change by September ? And if there’s a second wave in the autumn, what then? The sheer Groundhog Day of work/home school/clean/cook... I think I could cope if I could see an end in sight but I can’t .

Wearywithteens Tue 16-Jun-20 18:16:43

These threads are so flipping depressing. He does a bit of ‘helping’ with a child’s maths homework and you do EVERYTHING else. Culinary limits my arse. Stop enabling a lazy prick and get him to pull his weight. You will feel a lot better.

gamerchick Tue 16-Jun-20 18:18:09

@GertrudeCB just let the girl have a rant. No need to be a relationship counsellor

Well I kinda wanted to know as well. Trade off for school work for cooking but why isn't he pitching in with housework?

ChavvySexPond Tue 16-Jun-20 18:18:23

I hear you. Same here. It why U don't post on here much. Who TF has the time?!

The only thing that keeps me going is the reason why we're doing it.

I wish we had a different government who prepared for this in December, January and February like the good governments did. I can't bear that 65,000 extra people are now dead. And thousands will have life-limiting health complications.

But it is what it is. And once they let the infection in and let it spread for a couple of months there was no other choice than lockdown to get it down to manageable levels. And since they chose a soft lockdown, it has to be a long lockdown.

All we can do is hope the government do what's needed to get the virus under control sooner rather than later.

And give ourselves a break.

Merryoldgoat Tue 16-Jun-20 18:20:01

And those cunts who call it ‘healing’ and ‘renewing’ can fuck right off.

I’m with you OP.

LaurieMarlow Tue 16-Jun-20 18:37:23

And those cunts who call it ‘healing’ and ‘renewing’ can fuck right off.

God yes. Pricks.

Special place in hell for the sanctimonious bellend on another thread urging us all to ‘enjoy’ it.

There is literally nothing enjoyable about this. She can FOTTFSOFAFOSM.

beela Tue 16-Jun-20 18:42:19

It's shit.

SomewhereEast Tue 16-Jun-20 18:57:19

Fuck yes! I'm seriously considering checking into our local Premier Inn for a night when hotels reopen just to have twelve blessed hours completely to myself. And thats despite the fact that DH has been genuinely brilliant and the DCs have coped pretty well. I have no idea how some people are coping.

SomewhereEast Tue 16-Jun-20 18:59:36

At least all that "Make the most of this special time at home together" early lockdown bollocks has thoroughly vanished from my Facebook feed.

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