I've noticed over the past 18 months, I've lost a number of friends. By 'lost' I mean our relationships have nose-dived from close to sort of stilted. All from different parts of my life, none knew each other.
I'm wracking my brains and driving myself mad trying to work out why so many friendships are fizzling out.
I have a few friends who I have remained close to, and there doesn't seem to be any issues in those friendships.
This got me thinking...I'm not active on social media, I only have one account and I don't post on it. This makes me wonder if maybe we need to be active on social media to maintain some friendships?
I think if people are friends on Facebook, they have a front row seat into someone life, so we stay in touch easily. People are maybe more likely to post something on their wall than to contact friends, and then it can be liked/reacted to and it keeps people in each other's lives.
Some people might need that specific kind of interaction to keep a friendship going and I've obviously been bad at providing that.
I'm not immune to the idea that it's a 'it's me not them' situation and I've lost friends for valid reasons, but it also keeps coming back to me that if I had a Facebook account, all the things I am hearing about friends through the people we both know (small town) I would have known, I could have reacted to, and maybe my friends would feel I care more. I had Facebook, I deactivated it for reasons unrelated to friendship issues etc - I was just spending too much time on it. It could look like I've distance myself.
I'm probably rambling, and I'm definitely over thinking, but am curious if anyone thinks their presence, or lack of presence on social media has affected their friendships? Do some friendships need that connection on Facebook etc to be maintained?
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AprilMay89 · 14/06/2020 20:26
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