My younger sisters’ lads aged 22 and 23.
Their father left them when they were younger so he’s completely out the picture. My sis raised them herself and they amazingly haven’t gone off the rails when I’ve seen other kids in the same situation. Both lads work as builders and work long hours and look after their mum.
Couple of years ago my other sister, her DH and 3 younger kids invited the lads to stay 7 to 10 days in the summer during their annual leave. This sis is a bit more well off than the rest of us and live in a large house in the countryside. The younger lad broke up with his girlfriend and was going through a tough time so his mother was happy they could get away and have a rest before the slog of work resumes. Their mum (she told me) offered some money to the other sis for their board and she told her to stop being ridiculous.
On the morning of day 5 of their stay the lads thank their hosts for their hospitality and abruptly leave and head for the coast saying an old friend has come in from abroad and they wish to spend time with them before he heads back.
Both of my sisters are then off with each other a couple of months later when we catch up. Eventually I get the 2 sides to the story :
Nephews - Wanted a complete rest e.g. sit in the garden relaxing, country walks, baked cakes, family board games, pub lunches (they’d pay their own) time to recuperate and chill. Come back refreshed ready for 10-12 hour shifts again. Day 1 they cut their massive lawn, day 2 stripped walls of younger cousin bedroom, day 3 went shopping and dragged around carrying bags of clothes for aunt. Day 4 asked if they could help clear out shed for sale as uncle had to go out for the day.
Sister - Needed a few bits doing so could combine holiday with a few jobs that had accumulated.
Christmas comes and we’re all together at my parents for Christmas dinner. BIL snipes at nephew that please come again and stay with us where nephew snipes back why does your roof need tiling?
The nephews now flatly refuse any offer of staying more than a day with any aunt (including me) and their family again. All the other cousins (albeit are younger) all stay a few days during school hols here and there with different aunts.
Their grandmother has asked me to try and smooth things over with the nephews and I am not sure what to say to them. I don’t have any jobs for them to do nor would I ask even if i needed a builder, I just want them to feel at home and be chilled.
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Henrietta75 · 14/06/2020 14:16
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