I'm just looking for some clarity and honest opinions from people.
This has been bothering me for a while and I've spent a long time trying to 'analyse' this.
I've had a friend for over twenty years. This friend has to be at the centre of everything. Whilst she can be quite generous inviting us for meals and organising social events we all just fall in with the plans as it's easier. I've got other friendship groups but this particular friend has told me in the past that she doesn't like my friends so I now don't introduce her to anyone new. For context she's also told me that she doesn't like the friends of her other friend too!
I've had quite a lot of bereavement in the past few years and whilst I supported her during her difficult times I don't feel that it's been reciprocal and her DH has even apologised to me for the fact that she hasn't been that supportive.
The thing that has done it for me is this. We were at their house some months back for a meal along with a couple of their other friends. Part way through the evening she pipes up that she's heard 'some right gossip' about me from an aquaintence that she met at an evening wedding event. This was gossip that's 30 years old and basically saying that I was wild in my younger days. I hardly know the person that she heard it from and, yes I liked a good party but who didn't in their later teens?
The other couple seemed embarrassed and after I said that it was very rude of the acquaintance to gossip and her to bring it up here the other couple agreed and everything went very quiet.
Tbh I can't cope with these type of friendship. The question is aibu to knock it on the head given that I've known her all these years and our history? The fact that it's lockdown has almost made the scales fall from my eyes and see things clearer.
Thank you for reading x
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TheQueensCousin · 14/06/2020 00:02
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