Hi, I wanted to get a sense of how bad this is. DH has a Facebook account that he doesn’t post any updates or pics on or anything, however he uses the Messenger app to message people he went to school/college/university and their connections. The messages are typically:
- saying something controversial to get a reaction
- pretending to people he went to university with that he has a completely different job (I.e. has a professional finance role but tells people he works in a factory)
- pretends he’s not married
- asking to borrow money from someone who can ill afford it (DH doesn’t need money at all).
- spams 20 people he doesn’t really know at a time about a recent event (e.g. football match score)
We have had some issues and went to Relate for these. I mentioned that I found his messaging very odd but the counsellor dismissed it because he said he does it out of boredom. I think it’s indicative of other issues with him (he is insecure but also feels superior to the people he messages). Does anyone have experience of this? My AIBU is that I think his behaviour is unreasonable. Do you agree? Thanks