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AIBU?

AIBU to be disappointed that uncle won’t visit us and the kids now social bubbles possible?

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britflick · 13/06/2020 20:32

The kid’s uncle who lives on his own (aged 39 and healthy), won’t visit us and the kids cos he’s still extremely anxious about coronavirus. He sees us as a big risk to him. The children are craving family contact, and he’s just getting depressed and isolated on his own. AIBU to be annoyed?

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FreeFromDinoMeat · 13/06/2020 20:33

Yes YABU. It's his choice if he wants to take the risk or not Confused

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ComDummings · 13/06/2020 20:35

YABU, it’s up to him isn’t it. Not much you can do really 🤷🏻‍♀️

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pandafunfactory · 13/06/2020 20:38

That's a shame but nothing you can do

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Fiddlersgreen · 13/06/2020 20:38

Of course YABU, he’s totally his choice!
Shouldn’t you be more concerned than annoyed about his mental health if “he’s getting depressed”

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Ohtherewearethen · 13/06/2020 20:39

Just a quick heads up - the world doesn't revolve around you and your children and people can do what they feel is best.

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OldEvilOwl · 13/06/2020 20:39

YABU! It's his choice not yours

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babychange12 · 13/06/2020 20:40

Maybe he wants someone else in his bubble..

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flamingochill · 13/06/2020 20:40

Yabu

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britflick · 13/06/2020 20:40

I’ve spoken to him daily since the beginning of this to try and maintain contact and keep him sane, so yes I am concerned. I thought some actual contact would help him with his loneliness.

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Hugglespuffed · 13/06/2020 20:40

Of course you are being unreasonable.. maybe you should try to help him rather than push him to do something he doesn't want to do. Many people are worried about tbe virus.

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AnneLovesGilbert · 13/06/2020 20:40

Pick someone else, surely?

He’s not there to entertain your children.

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britflick · 13/06/2020 20:41

@Ohtherewearethen

Just a quick heads up - the world doesn't revolve around you and your children and people can do what they feel is best.

Didn’t say it did. I thought it would be a mutually beneficial meet up.
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Purpleartichoke · 13/06/2020 20:44

Are you actually isolating? We’d love to meet up with family at this point, but we just can’t because we know they have been breaking lockdown rules all along.

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britflick · 13/06/2020 20:45

Jeez, you’re a judgemental lot aren’t you. I don’t want entertainment, babysitting or anything else. Just want me and the kids to be able to speak to him face to face.
I have been trying to help him everyday but he rejects any steps towards anything positive.

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Toilenstripes · 13/06/2020 20:45

His health, his choice.

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RandomMess · 13/06/2020 20:47

Can you suggest outdoor meetings first, he may feel safer like that?

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SirSamuelVimesBlackboardMonito · 13/06/2020 20:48

I see your pov OP. Especially if you have bren making the effort to help him with loneliness through daily contact. Let me guess, it's mostly you contacting him? But now that he is able to do something to help himself, he won't.

Unless he wants to join up with someone else, which would be fine.

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britflick · 13/06/2020 20:49

Yes I did that. He’s still uncomfortable with it.
Oh well seems the majority think I am being unreasonable, so that’s me told

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Didntwanttochangemyname · 13/06/2020 20:50

Have you suggested seeing him on your own? The prospect of seeing you all en masse might be a bit much after weeks of isolation.

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britflick · 13/06/2020 20:51

I suggested he meet his friend first, but he is equally reluctant.
I wonder what help there is out there for people who are struggling to leave the house right now, even though they can

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Jeremyironsnothing · 13/06/2020 21:04

He doesn't need help. He wants to keep himself safe. It's his choice.

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Ullupullu · 13/06/2020 21:10

If he merges into your bubble that means he can't choose anyone else. Maybe he would rather see a friend or someone else.

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britflick · 13/06/2020 21:13

He doesn’t want to see anyone. He’s stuck in a flat with no garden, shopping delivered, rarely goes out.

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heartsonacake · 13/06/2020 21:13

YABU. He doesn’t require help, he needs you to respect his decisions and not try to cajole him.

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Murraygoldberg · 13/06/2020 21:17

Maybe seeing a sibling and their children is not high on their priorities, it wouldn't be on mine

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