This post isn’t intended to offend or upset, i’m just trying to reconcile some feelings that I have been having for a long time about my identity.
For background:
One grandparent was black Caribbean, the other was white English so DM is mixed. DDad was white English meaning that I am partly mixed race. However, my skin is white and although my features are similar to those of my black relatives, to most people I look white. My DM and siblings have darker skin and people have in the past asked questions about their heritage. No one questions my heritage and most people are surprised to learn about my ancestry.
Whenever I am asked to state my race (form filling etc) I put mixed ethnicity white and black Caribbean. I have always done this. However, I am starting to feel guilty about this as, to all intents and purposes I look white and I would say I have benefited in my life from white privilege.
Can anyone relate to these feelings? Should I continue to identify as mixed race? Some people have made comments to me recently which suggest they think I’m gaining some advantage from doing this. Others In the past have suggested that I’m attention seeking.
So AIBU to identify myself as mixed race?
AIBU?
To see myself as mixed race?
skylarkdescending · 13/06/2020 14:28
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