I know I am being completely U. I know I should be grateful to be healthy ish/alive/have friend - delete as you see fit, but I am beyond tired. As in seriously properly burnt out.
12 weeks into this, working full time, homeschooling two children, cooking and cleaning every minute of the day, keeping cupboards stocked, caring for my elderly parents, organising weekly shopping for my neighbours - keeping sane, and keeping going somehow week after week with very little sleep (who can sleep these days??!) and facing down the mother of all pandemics. Now I am also expected to socialise!!!! This must surely be a joke.
Because for me this feels like even more women's work. The thought of doing even more just feels me with dread.
Just how in gods earth am I supposed to find the reserves to drive my kids to friends, pack up picnics, host wonderful BBQs with summer dresses when I can't honestly even manage some days to brush my hair!
I am really not being ungrateful, but we have had family and friends inviting themselves (I kid you not) or inviting us to their gardens for BBQs and whatever, and the thought of it is making me want to shrivel and hide.
I am an outgoing, reasonably sociable person but I can not face it. Not the dancing around trying to keep to 2m, the awkwardness of not hugging and keeping a distance, the exhaustion of preparing it all, more work, more cleaning what do we even talk about?! I would jump at the chance to go to a restaurant and be looked after, but I can not face anymore home catering!!
I miss my friends, and my old life, and I don't want to turn people down but where do we find the energy for this? What excuses are even able to say? We all have empty diaries, we don't have other commitments!! I am trapped or feel like it. It seems like all I am hearing about is garden parties and BBQs and I am wondering why I feel so flat about it. It was almost easier in the lockdown
If you are a social butterfly in the middle of this, please tell me how you are managing to find the energy? If you feel the same as me how do avoid hurting others by saying no when they haven't seen you since the winter?!
I can just say no, of course, but I know it would hurt feelings for sure so would rather not. How are you feeling about being 'sociable'?
Losing 50,000 people, the economy is ravaged, my kids are feral without an education. I really do not feel like celebrating anything at all right now.
AIBU?
Feeling pressure to be sociable, who else?
pigeon999 · 12/06/2020 15:20
Am I being unreasonable?
18 votes. Final results.
POLLwhat you have a great excuse with a toddler 
hopefully they won't remove the 2m rule for your sake!
It now feels like christmas on steroids!! With most people stating the second wave as a reason for urgency and we must get those dates in the diary asap. Jesus H Christ. At this rate I am not even going to make the second wave, much less the third 
Just tell them what you have told us - you are tired, WFH and homeschooling. You don't have an ounce of energy to spare. Later would be better. They are probably being pressured too.
What might be good is for just you to see a close friend for an hour. Give you a bit of a boost. Cry / laugh / moan / eat chocolate / whatever or all of the above.
Hope you feel more like you before too long.
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