AIBU to think this is not normal?
DD came back from her Dad's on Tuesday and has been very out of sorts since, mood wise. Since then she has spoken on 3 seperate occasions about how she would feel if her older brothers died, she says she would be glad. I was really taken aback and every time said that is a really unkind thing to say and how would she feel if it really happened and she said she doesn't care! I calmly told her that hearing this is upsetting for me and she has hurt my feelings and that isn't okay.
Tonight she has refused to eat her evening meal, so I left it an hour and then sat her down just now and said she needs to eat (sausage, broccoli and potato nothing terrible and something she usually enjoys) she pushed the plate across the table and started screaming. I told her she would not have any device time tonight as a consequence of her behaviour and she said 'I hate you and I hope you die'. I again said that is really unkind, hearing that hurts and have put her to bed (she has only had fruit for breakfast and cheese on toast and cucumber, tomato and pepper today so I'm worried she is starving ) and she was screaming in her room 'I just want you to die I hate you so much'. She is now sobbing. Part of me wants to go talk to her but if I hear that she wants me to die again, I don't trust myself not to burst into tears or shout at her. She regularly says she hates me but this wanting us to die thing is new.
I have anxiety and I am going into catastrophic thinking mode that her distress is as as a result of something huge or her father had said something about dying to her. I can't imagine he would though, he was an abusive shit towards me but has never ever been anything but a bit too permissive and over protective of the DC. AIBU to think this is totally not okay or normal? Would you go and talk to her even if it means you might not be the calm parent you should be? Please don't pile on me, for various reasons I'm quite raw. I just want to know if anyone else has dealt with this.
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DD (8 years) has suddenly started talking about how she wouldn't be bothered if me or her brothers die?
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ComplexPTSDmaybe · 11/06/2020 20:28
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