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Spectacular work from MIL

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CraftyGardener Thu 11-Jun-20 19:53:25

(Background, DH is an only child and she sobbed the day he moved in with mead I'd stolen her baby).

MIL has surpassed herself in the passive aggressive stakes. 10th wedding anniversary card arrives, she's consistently spelled my name incorrectly throughout. And I mean it's a real stretch to misspell my name. I never rise to her as it would upset DH but I know she won't be able to resist and will say something like 'oh I'm paranoid I made a spelling mistake on your card'. WIBU to respond 'oh no worries, probably a senior moment!'?

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ChangeThePassword Thu 11-Jun-20 19:55:56


'oh did you? I didn't notice'

Depends on whether being old or unnoticed would be more annoying to her.

mbosnz Thu 11-Jun-20 19:56:38

I think that would be singularly restrained.

letmethinkaboutitfornow Thu 11-Jun-20 19:57:16

That sounds petty! But I am so with you on this! 😂😂

TeamsMakesMeScreams Thu 11-Jun-20 19:58:04

When he moved in did she also clutch his hand and say “I don’t want to die alone?”. Grr

Do nothing, be the better person.

JesusInTheCabbageVan Thu 11-Jun-20 19:58:39

Or you could fuck with her head. "No, you spelled it right! I was really impressed, so many people get it wrong."

IwishIhadaMargarita Thu 11-Jun-20 19:58:40

Hmm really I just handed it to DH and didn’t read it! Anyway more tea anyone?

SummerDayWinterEvenings Thu 11-Jun-20 19:59:48

Say notihng. Or 'Really? I'd hadn't checked? I know you've always got it wrong, so I don't mind now -I'm used to it'

Splitsunrise Thu 11-Jun-20 20:00:05

Act like you don’t care/didn’t realise, that will bother her more

Spied Thu 11-Jun-20 20:00:21

Say nothing. It will really annoys her that you either haven't noticed or couldn't care less.

Aquamarine1029 Thu 11-Jun-20 20:00:24

"Oh you did? I haven't even looked at it."

HollowTalk Thu 11-Jun-20 20:00:32

I'd just say, "Oh I assumed you were dyslexic." She'll write it the correct way next time.

Minxmumma Thu 11-Jun-20 20:02:28

Send her birthday card wrongly spelt in the most extreme way you can

DollyPomPoms Thu 11-Jun-20 20:03:29

‘Oh don’t worry, I only keep the ones that matter.’

FizzyGreenWater Thu 11-Jun-20 20:03:38

Oh yes definitely grin

'Don't worry! Age comes to us all'

CraftyGardener Thu 11-Jun-20 20:04:04

Can't tell you how relieved I am that you don't think I'm being a bitter Betty grin when you've been living with it for so long I worry I'm being a bit sensitive. But she really is a troll ...

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ChangeThePassword Thu 11-Jun-20 20:05:35

I genuinely think you not noticing so be more annoying to her than you saying it's down to age. But you could combine the two.

'oh I didn't notice. Don't worry, ahe comes to us all! ', and get a double whammy.

ChangeThePassword Thu 11-Jun-20 20:06:02

Hopefully you got the gist despite the typos...

Suzie6789 Thu 11-Jun-20 20:06:09

How annoying for you, I’d just go with the ‘oh did you, I didn’t check’ line.

Why is your DH ok with her being like this with you, but would be upset if you responded?

guessmyusername Thu 11-Jun-20 20:06:43

Mine said To (husbands name) and wife. Made me feel so special

FreezerBird Thu 11-Jun-20 20:10:34

"Oh, did you send a card?"

CraftyGardener Thu 11-Jun-20 20:10:50

Yeees!! @ChangeThePassword double whammy 😆

@Suzie6789 we've been together 12 years, married 10. She won't change and I don't like drama. They live hundreds of miles away so she can stew in her own bile.

@guessmyusername that's awful! How horrid

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BackforGood Thu 11-Jun-20 20:14:13

I think you are over-egging this.
Seriously, "spectacular work from MiL" then you talk about a wrong spelling hmm

Chickychickydodah Thu 11-Jun-20 20:15:58

Spell her name wrong on the next chance

Sarahandco Thu 11-Jun-20 20:17:38

Did you send a card? it hasn't arrived yet, damm post!

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