How did you cope with not seeing your DC every day?

[Jammydodger6]

Not really an AIBU.

Lockdown has really brought to light have little in common my and my DP have. It’s gotten to the point where I feel like we are just friends living together. On an evening after putting DS to bed. He does his thing downstairs and I’m upstairs. His hobby he spends all evening doing annoys me and is loud. I go upstairs to escape. We don’t really spend time together anymore.

Obviously I don’t want to make any rash decisions as we aren’t in normal circumstances. We were planning of having DC 2 until lockdown ruined our plans.

My question is (the thing that is holding me back the most) is how did you cope with not seeing your DC everyday after splitting up?

Did you find it easy and have you the opportunity to get some of yourself back when DC was with their DF or was it incredibly hard?

[Colycola]

It is hard, but it’s better for children to see two separate happy parents than two parents who are with each other and are actively unhappy.

It is extremely tough at Christmas etc but you create a new normal and you get used to it.

[PawPatrolMakesMeDrink]

It’s hard. But DS and his dad have a really good relationship. We both make sacrifices. Which is necessary.
I wouldn’t choose this way of having my family, but it is what it is.

[PumpkinP]

I’m a lone parent and my ex is absent so doesn’t see our children at all. I would love their father to take them sometimes to have a break tbh!

[TheHarryFormerlyKnownAsPrince]

I feel I have it very very lucky. My dc spend two nights a week with ExH. These are the two days I use to catch up on cleaning, see a friend, go swimming or for a run (being the only adult in the house means you can’t just pop out when dc are in bed), or do some work in the evening.
The rest of the time I have my dc and can do things my way.
We’re also very flexible about contact so sometimes I will take one dc for some 1:1 time whilst siblings are with him and vice versa.

[TheHarryFormerlyKnownAsPrince]

I’m very very lucky that we still get on well enough to spend Christmas and dc birthdays all together so I haven’t experienced missing them on those days. I imagine that would be very hard.