I am the mother of a teenage trans identifying child. Whilst well meaning, this obsession with publicly affirming Trans people makes it harder for gender questioning young people (or adults) to ever change their minds. Of course trans people should be treated with kindness (I wouldn't want my child discriminated against) but the culture of celebrating 'bravery' cements young people on a path towards medicalisation. What Daniel Radcliffe, Emma Watson etc need to understand is that, even if they have trans friends (how cool they are), stating that “Trans Women Are Women” steps beyond kindness and fuels a very dangerous collective lie. Dangerous because Transgenderism is actually a very complex issue and experimenting with different gender expression is something which some young people need to do (for all their own reasons) - without being strapped to the juggernaut... by well meaning people who have no IDEA of the complexities involved for some young people (many of whom have underlying vulnerabilities, eg. autism). MY CHILD's life is being insidiously affected by these naive idiots who just want to feel warm and fuzzy but have not considered the wider effect of their words. Interestingly many desisters/detranstioners say that they are angry that they were led to believe that they could actually 'be' the other sex. By all means let's promote kindness and understanding (and in some cases that will involve some degree of affirmation), but not outright lying. Why not lie, to be kind? Because, quite apart from the v real issue of women's spaces & women's rights (including women's rights to not be erased) there is ALSO the very real issue of what lying does (long term) for young trans people.
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Mum of Trans child on Affirmation, Celebration & Lying - wider risks?
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FelineFoxy · 11/06/2020 11:41
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