I appreciate this situation may be heightened due to lockdown but DHs son has always been this way and I'm starting to find myself getting really irritated.
He can be such a lovely boy and I don't dislike him generally, we have a good relationship. But he can be so annoying (want for a better word?) In terms of his behaviour sometimes. He is rude, cheeky, never does as he's told, he can also be violent toward his siblings when they fall out, not just a usual sibling scrap but things like smacking them with hard objects, pinching and scratching their faces etc... He is very much what one would describe as the class clown I guess? Likes to show off and do the opposite of what he's asked for attention.
My grievance is with DH. Because he really doesn't do much about it. He thinks he is hilarious and just a 'character' but I am growing more and more concerned and if I'm honest, aggravated by the situation. DH and his ex had started to be called into school (before lockdown) due to some fighting and other issues, they were called to pick him up from his friend's house just before lockdown too because he'd hurt his friend in an argument.
I just find him so difficult to be around a lot of the time, and I can feel myself getting irritated by the way he behaves when he's here. DH thinks he's just funny, and a bit of a cheeky chappy, I feel like it's very annoying (perhaps because he's not my child and I'm able to look at it from a distance? I don't know). I don't want to feel like that but when I also don't really have a huge amount of sway over his life/discipline it is getting harder and harder to 'like' him.
I KNOW this is a parent issue, I understand that they need to be doing more. They baby him a lot though and just seem to not want to accept it. To them he is just a funny character, a bit cheeky.
It's not just me either, my mum has commented before that she believes there may be some issues there, not in any way trying to be offensive, but she mentioned it to me out of concern, but I feel like I can't say that to DH for fear of insulting him/his child.
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FigureOfSpooch · 11/06/2020 10:02
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