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Coronaviurus to be past caring that for one day i was unreasonable

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Pixiemame Wed 10-Jun-20 21:42:31

So it was my DM’s 60th birthday at the weekend. We had a family holiday booked to portugal to celebrate which was obviously cancelled. Me my dh and our 2 children haven’t seen family apart from parents at the bottom of my front garden 3 or 4 times and the same with my sister and her 2 children. At the weekwnd we decided to go round to our parents house to celebrate DM’s birthday. We didn’t hug but we did sit inside the house for a while and in the garden. We had a few drinks (2 or 3) each, took some photos, some of which i uploaded to facebook. We all had our own plastic cups and cutlery, paper plates and napkins that we brought from our own houses, along with food we made at home. I know i may have been unreasonable but AIBU to be past caring? I haven’t taken my kids to the beach, they aren’t going bacl to school, they haven’t been anywhere near a park or supermarket and none of my family are high risk. Like a lot of people we have all been pretty miserable and myself very very low and anxious, so to spend 2/3 hours with my family was amazing. Call me selfish if you like but i do not regret it.

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Drivingdownthe101 Wed 10-Jun-20 21:44:35

YANBU but why are you posting? Has someone criticised you? Do you feel bad?
Just crack on!

Pixiemame Wed 10-Jun-20 21:55:06

Sorry, yes i posted way too soon. A friend commented on my facebook post saying that i was irresponsible. I replied back saying that she's entitled to her opinion but i don't feel the need to justify myself to her. She replied back saying that i do need to justify myself, to which i said no, and she started to insult me.

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KylieKoKo Wed 10-Jun-20 21:57:58

I don't really understand why you put it on Facebook as it's inviting people to comment. You're also inviting others to judge by posting on here. Other than that I don't think you were unreasonable.

Sparklesocks Wed 10-Jun-20 22:00:45

If you’re social distancing and acting within the guidelines then you don’t have to justify yourself to anyone.

PleasantVille Wed 10-Jun-20 22:01:23

Why did you post it on Facebook? That wasn't necessary and of course people who've rigidly stuck to the rules might be annoyed with you

Pixiemame Wed 10-Jun-20 22:01:59

The majority of the photos that i posted were of us all in the garden to be fair as that's where we spent the majority of our time. I think there were two of us inside the house when we were all spaced out in the dining room. I use facebook mostly to post pictures for family who live at the opposite end of the country and also i do albums of photos just for memories for me really. I didn't post pictures to get a reaction or cause trouble.

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RhianFuckingMorris Wed 10-Jun-20 22:03:30

You've posted on here because you want to justify yourself I guess.
You've broken the rules. You've then posted on social media photos of yourself breaking the rules and now don't like the criticism you are getting for it.

But you claim you don't give a shit??

DamnShesaSexyChick Wed 10-Jun-20 22:03:49

Well why are you trying to justify it on here then? If you’re going to break the rules which many are abiding by still then keep it to yourself.

CaroleFuckingBaskin Wed 10-Jun-20 22:04:04

Yanbu. I have done the same but not posted. My parents are in their 80s. Family time is what keeps them going.

Stuckforthefourthtime Wed 10-Jun-20 22:04:20

Well, it is a bit irresponsible, people 60 and over are at higher risk, and many people haven't been able to sit at the end of the garden - some didn't even get to say goodbye to their parents at the end of their lives.
Why couldn't you just stay in the garden? And why aren't you taking your kids to the park, lower risk, within the rules and surely good for them?

Pixiemame Wed 10-Jun-20 22:07:02

I had rigidly stuck to the rules too. However i've seen photos of mixed families and friends on beaches not social distancing, had to witness people protesting, again not social distancing, and seen large groups of adults and their kids not keeping 2m distance going to parks. I am usually all about the rules but i have my breaking point like a lot of other people do.

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PleasantVille Wed 10-Jun-20 22:08:37

If you're posting for your own memories or family far away use the Facebook settings to restrict the access to photos.

Tbh I think you've made a problem where there didn't need to be one.

Yesmate Wed 10-Jun-20 22:09:30

If you are happy with your decision it shouldn’t matter who disagrees with you on fb and/or on here. You broke the rules but you know that.

StillCoughingandLaughing Wed 10-Jun-20 22:10:29

I just wouldn’t post the pictures on Facebook in future. I know you said it’s for family living far away, but you could email or WhatsApp them privately and save yourself the hassle of inviting comment. If you’re genuinely past caring, don’t do anything that might draw others into an argument you don’t want to have.

RhianFuckingMorris Wed 10-Jun-20 22:11:13

Christ on a bike.
You really have just come along to get a load of people saying
"Awww no poor you, yes we understand what you did" blah blah blah

Why?? Because you've pissed people off on real life.

Do what you like. Go around me licking people's faces if you feel inclined but don't fish for justification of your actions, which is exactly how you are coming across.

Pixiemame Wed 10-Jun-20 22:11:46

But why shouldn't i be able to post what i like on facebook? For fear of upsetting or offending people? I've seen worse things going on that has been posted on soical media that maybe i don't agree with 100% but i didn't comment. It's none of my business what other people chose to do. I'm not looking trying to justify what i did at all.

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NailsNeedDoing Wed 10-Jun-20 22:11:53

Yanbu to have done it, but it was a bit daft to post the pictures on Facebook.

Imnotcalledlola Wed 10-Jun-20 22:13:09

Yeah I’ve been less than perfect at following some of the rules but I haven’t felt the need to share it on facebook. That was your mistake!

PleasantVille Wed 10-Jun-20 22:14:52

You've posted in AIBU - what are you expecting posters to say? What's the purpose of the thread ?

ScarfLadysBag Wed 10-Jun-20 22:16:11

I don't really care about this particular situation, but it really pisses me off when people justify things with 'We haven't seen them in weeks except from their garden blah blah blah'.

A not insignificant number of us live far enough from family that we haven't seen them full stop in months and aren't sure when we will again. Do what you want but don't claim your circumstances are something special when everyone is in the same boat. We all miss our family, you aren't unique.

Pixiemame Wed 10-Jun-20 22:17:53

I don't expect people to say poor me, why would i? All i'm annoyed about is that a so called friend, who has done some minor questionable things throughout lockdown herself by the way, has the nerve to tell me that i should justify myself to her. I wouldn't dare say that to anyone, never mind post it on their facebook page. I went to see my family for a couple of hours after months of staying away from them, there are worse things people could do.

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imsooverthisdrama Wed 10-Jun-20 22:20:35

You can post what you like on fb but be prepared for someone to post comments good or bad .
You will always get someone who feels the need to tell you off , personally I think it's none of her business.
She doesn't know you have followed the rules she just sees a picture of you in the house .
If you care don't post , if you don't care then you will ignore her .
If you have come on here for everyone to agree with you well some will but some won't .
I don't blame you it's hard after 11 weeks not to see family but if I invited my mum round I'd be careful not to sit inside and I'd be even more careful not to upload pictures doing so if I did .
Just block her if she bothers you and carry on as you are .

Yesmate Wed 10-Jun-20 22:23:16

Why not speak to her as opposed to a group of strangers on here?

RhianFuckingMorris Wed 10-Jun-20 22:23:39

It's an emotive subject. Do what you want but don't publicise it. The minute you do, you open yourself up to criticism.

Like has been pointed out. We've all been in the same situation. Your circumstances aren't any more special. People in Wales and Scotland are still living under much stricter rules than those in England.

Why did you start this thread if not to get justification for your actions?

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