Am I being unreasonable to tell my mum My thoughts and to back off and stop laying it on so thick?
Context:
Divorced from my Father when I was preteen because she decided to up and move herself 200 miles away from the family home and expected to remain a family unit.
Maintained contact through teens and twenties, then she moved another 200 miles further so totally just short of 400 from her original and my current location. Not long after her move me and DH found out we were pregnant After trying for a year, she’s been nuts ever since.
Sending enormous texts about how she’s upset she can’t be close and ‘do all the things mummys do for their daughters when pregnant’, she wanted to be at the birth instead of DH, she wanted to live with us for a few weeks after birth.. (what even is that?!)
Did she not give up all that apparent closeness when moving away before I’d hit my teens? I don’t feel like we’re close in the sense she’s talking about. It would almost be like a stranger at the birth, luckily lockdown has put an end to some of her demands but she’s making me feel shitty.
I am on the brink of saying something and finally speaking my mind. She has even taken to sending extremely long texts to DH in an attempt to get him to sneakily inform her I’m in labour so she can come down.
Finally I get texts saying that when I’m a mum I will understand why she is the way she is and quite frankly I couldn’t feel more opposite, I wouldn’t want to spend a second away from my baby, let alone move hundreds of miles away when they’re still figuring life out.
Argh, do I have an open chat or leave it and forget how I feel?
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To tell my mum to back off
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NameChange564738 · 10/06/2020 20:36
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Am I being unreasonable?
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