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Has anyone truely come out the other side after suffering with severe depression?

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Snowcappedmountains Tue 09-Jun-20 20:05:24

Posting here for traffic.

I am in a bad way, a really bad way. I've expressed this to two people that are meant to love and care for me the most but all they have done is get annoyed and frustrated with me. No offer of a hug and no understanding - I feel so unloved.

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emodi Tue 09-Jun-20 20:10:32

I don’t have an answer to your question but just wanted to reach out to give you a big virtual hug . Hope you are getting the help you need .

Isthisfinallyit Tue 09-Jun-20 20:11:35

I'm sorry you feel this way. I was severely depressed and therapy was the only thing that cured me. You might feel unloved but you probably are loved all tge same. People generally are really bad at saying something helpful. It doesn't mean that they don't want the best for you, they're just too clumsy and unthinking.

momamama Tue 09-Jun-20 20:12:03

I have to be mindful of myself and watch for signs I'm having trouble to give myself some slack but yes, truly I have. I've been to some dark places I never wish anyone else to go to but yes I am as recovered as I ever will be. I can function in the world and enjoy my life and family again. Sending you a hug x

Jingstohang Tue 09-Jun-20 20:12:12

Yes, thanks to medication and therapy. Theres another side, keep going and find the help you need. People still dont understand mental health, but there is help out there.

Snowcappedmountains Tue 09-Jun-20 20:14:35

Thank you for all your responses, it's really appreciated.

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Haggisfish Tue 09-Jun-20 20:15:02

Yes thanks to medication in both cases.

AngryFeminist Tue 09-Jun-20 20:15:22

So sorry and yes, there is another side. This will pass, and be as kind as you possibly can to yourself until it does.

Where are you at with the doctors at the moment? Do you have medication and how is it working for you? Any therapy on the horizon? What is your support network outside those 2 people?

EmeraldShamrock Tue 09-Jun-20 20:18:28

Yes. I'm not sure how a mix of medication and lucky breaks, everything before that was black sometimes grey. I look forward to sleep so much and hated to wake, I felt like I had another person on my back.
One morning the weight was gone, each day I started to feel better and mad little appearance changes too.
We are in dreadful times OP. The effect of this pandemic will pay a big part in your feelings. Have you saw a gp. I can understand the lack of hugs I'm a no hugs person till the virus fucks off.

Wolfiefan Tue 09-Jun-20 20:18:37

Yes. But I wouldn’t have done without meds and CBT.

Cheesewiz Tue 09-Jun-20 20:23:04

I'm sorry that they reacted that way. I have suffered from depression on and off for 18 years. I have really bad times where I don't think I can go on and it does pass, which I try and keep telling myself when things are bad. Finding the right medication really helped, are you able to contact your doctor tomorrow?

hoochymamgu Tue 09-Jun-20 20:35:17

Yep, medication, lots of therapy and loads of time, plus ditching my job and deciding to look after myself.
You will get there Snow thanks

bridgetreilly Tue 09-Jun-20 20:43:43

Yes. I had severe clinical depression about 10 years ago for a couple of years. Medication and some therapy helped dramatically. I came off the drugs for a while, then back on them, then came off again 2 years ago. Am currently fine, though lockdown is hard and I am monitoring my mental health carefully.

People don't always understand mental health problems and I'm sorry that you've experienced that. But in any case, your family can't be the ones you expect to solve this for you (though it's much better if they can at least support you). You need professional help. Talk to your GP as soon as possible.

AlohaMolly Tue 09-Jun-20 20:46:33

Yes, no medication in my case. It took two years to feel nearly normal and another year on and most of the time I can forget it is there. Like someone else said, I have to watch myself, but can spot the signs and know when something might trigger a spiral and can manage it pretty well.

For context, I had a 6 mknth old and was planning and visualising suicide, took out life insurance etc. I thought I’d never feel anything but despair again.

But I do, I feel it all. I’m sorry the people you told didn’t react helpfully but I promise you, you are loved. You are loved, you are wanted, you are valuable and you are needed.

Shoeoholic Tue 09-Jun-20 21:45:22

Yes I did. My GP told me it was one of the worse cases he had seen.

A mixture of medication, exercise and support from GP got me through, although it took time. I always remember asking everyday am I going to get better? Will I ever feel better? I hung on to some vague belief that it would.

I have thought back to this time as to how I would have dealt with it in the Pandemic and it would have been so much harder to get support. I think people generally are struggling their own battles too, so maybe don’t have anything left to offer support. If you haven’t already I’d recommend contacting your GP- they should be able to do a remote consultation for mental health and see what they advise.

Please believe though no matter how bad you feel- you can and will feel better.

Nottherealslimshady Tue 09-Jun-20 22:08:38

Just here to offer solidarity. I'm also in a really bad place. Have been for over 10 years but something always stops me killing myself.
I'm waiting to start councelling after lockdown.
Are you on medication or in councelling?

Thisbastardcomputer Tue 09-Jun-20 22:17:52

Yes, it took an awful long time but I'm back to the person I was before my breakdown in 2008. I'm less of a people pleaser now, in fact I actively avoid most people.

Scout2016 Tue 09-Jun-20 22:22:58

Yes. Medication and later counselling twice. Repeated bouts over the years but with decreasing severity as I learnt ways of coping, sought help earlier each time and my thinking and life choices shifted. At the lowest points I would have gone under without antidepressants. I think of them like how you'd have a crutch to help with a broken leg. Just makes things more manageable to get you on a baseline where you can function and try to get well. I still worry it will come back one day. Clinical rather than reactive depression. It has hit hard when on paper everything is perfect, and, then times when everything has been objectively really shit I have sailed through.

FulfilledRemit Tue 09-Jun-20 22:24:10

I did. Was very very depressed for many years (from 18 til 25 ish). It gradually lifted, largely on its own I think but I had therapy and did a lot of soul searching too. Also stopped abusing drink/drugs which I used to stop feeling anything. Still have down days but nothing in the same league as how I felt 10+ years ago.

FulfilledRemit Tue 09-Jun-20 22:26:06

Should also say that I tried pretty much all the medication going - was under psychiatric services for 6 or 7 years - but it never did much for me. Doesn't mean it doesn't work for others, though.

Scout2016 Tue 09-Jun-20 22:34:32

I would say please seek professional help. As for others, those who haven't experienced it often just don't really get it and truth is being close to someone suffering depression is hard. Doesn't mean they don't care. And your thinking might be a bit skewed at the moment so try not to over analyse or dwell on their responses.

ConkerGame Tue 09-Jun-20 22:35:13

Yes I have. CBT did it for me, and then I changed lots of things about my life - job, house, relationship. My friends were brilliant but my parents didn’t understand and wanted to pretend it wasn’t happening. I was too scared to tell my siblings, I’m still not sure how much they know about it.

CloudsCanLookLikeSheep Wed 10-Jun-20 23:31:00

Yes, I was very depressed from teens to early 30s, suicidal ideation etc.

Basically I deeply hated myself. With the help of a very skilled therapist, no meds, I learned to finally accept myself as maybe not do bad after all.

I still get a bit down from time to time but nothing like those paralyzing depressions when I felt completely cut off from the world for days and weeks on end. Like a glass pane was separating me from everyone else around me.

0v9c99f9g9d939d9f9g9h8h Wed 10-Jun-20 23:33:40

I have seen people completely come back. People you would never imagine recovering. It absolutely can be done.

Pleasegodgotosleep Thu 11-Jun-20 00:14:07

Yes, medication and CBT. Good luck flowers

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