DH and I have been together for 5 years and have a 2yo DD. I’m in my early thirties and he’s in his late fifties (big age gap) which is now very much starting to show. When we first got together he seemed excited to have a family and we agreed to start a family, which meant I had to put my career on hold. We got married as I was concerned I could be left with a small child should the worst happen to him.
Now he’s talking about retiring and moving a long way away for a quieter life. The only problem is that I’m not ready to ‘take it easy’. I like my job and plan to have a reasonably long lasting career there. I don’t want to potentially be left a widow miles away from my family either. We have absolutely no sex life anymore and it’s getting me down. It feels I’m now tied to a man who shows me no affection and just wants me to follow him round and eventually be his carer.
He can’t change his age, and I knew his age when I married him, but now I’m far more confident in my ability to cope on my own. We seem to want completely different lives now, and I’d rather be with someone I can grow old with, rather than someone I can just watch grow old. Every time I try to talk to him about my concerns he just starts yelling and I can’t bear it.
Either I leave him and look like a complete villain, or stay and accept I will never have a career, sex life or more children.
I can’t eat or sleep. I honestly feel I’ve ruined my life and just wish I could go back 5 years and never got into this 😢
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PoppySeedBun18 · 08/06/2020 20:48
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Am I being unreasonable?
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