I am working FT outside the home as normal during the virus. My job is pretty full on anyway but particularly so at the moment.
DH is currently furloughed so is at home with the dc, and drives me to and from work.
I am really fed up of a lot of things at the moment and we have issues in our marriage anyway- which is why I am not sure whether I am BU because I am already cross, or whether in fact DH is BU.
DH did something we agreed should not be done which led to a bunch of fairly minor issues, but all issues which fall to me to sort out. And that led to me becoming, not for the first time, annoyed at the lack of equal responsibility. It seems these days like everything falls to me- all the life admin and arranging and planning and checking and so on. I texted to DH "I am so tired and I feel totally unsupported. I organise and plan everything. Money, bills, education, childcare, health, activities, tax, insurance, everything. It is like I have two full time jobs. I am tired."
DH's response was "OK how do you want me to help you with that?"
… and I just want to scream. I don't want help, I want him to take on equal responsibility. I don't want to tell someone I am tired due to being the one who is responsible for everything and them to push back to me the responsibility for coming up with a solution to it.
AIBU to feel like that?
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AIBU to be annoyed that his response was "tell me what you want me to do to help you?"
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Iwalkinmyclothing · 05/06/2020 16:57
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Am I being unreasonable?
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You are being unreasonable
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You are NOT being unreasonable
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