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DandelionWars Thu 04-Jun-20 22:32:14

Name changed in case my neighbour is on here - I don't want her going through my posting history and even by making changes to the story it is still so (imo) batshit crazy that neighbour will recognise herself.

For context, before I moved into my house an anti-social behaviour report was filed against me. There was no-one in my house. It was empty bar the flooring person who was working between the hours of 2pm and 4pm, two weeks day in a row with no electricty, so I highly doubt he behaved in an unsocial manner. Parking is tight around here so it is entirely plausible that he pissed someone off by parking in 'their' space.

The day I moved in my neighbour knocked on my door to ask if I could stop my child playing outside after 7pm because her kids go to bed at 7. I was abit hmm but complied much to dd's dismay who was playing quietly alone in the garden at the time of the complaint. A complaint was then made to my LL about DD playing out 'at all hours'.

A few months later DD got a thing that made noise during the day. the neighbour knocked to complain. I apologised. I moved the thing away from the party wall. The LL arrives on my doorstep a week later to ask about the thing and let me know a complaint has been made. I showed the LL the thing, discussed the noise and the previous agreement with the neighbour to move the thing and the steps I was taking to ensure the thing did not make noise on an evening. The LL was satisfied and agreed the thing was not an issue.

Various other niggly complaints were made but nothing was reported to the LL until the dandelion war started.

There are daffodils in my garden, the neighbour thinks they're dandelions (they're not dandelions or daffodils but I'm changing details on the off chance the neighbour doesn't believe she is only the person batshit crazy enough to care about dandelions) because she thinks they're ugly. They've been there since we moved in.

The neighbour asked me if she could remove all of the daffodils. I agreed even though we like the daffodils. She did not remove them but continued to complain about them. I got a bit fed up and removed half of the daffodils and cut the rest right down. DD was upset because she really likes the daffodils. She picks them and takes them to her dad's every year and they make things with them.

A week after removing half of the daffodils the LL calls about the 'condition' of the garden. I talked about the daffodils the LL agrees if that is the only issue I can keep the daffodils but there are now three complaints on file about me so he wants me to be aware I am being monitored and will need to have extra inspections.

So, now I am pissed and fed up of agreeing to the neighbour's petty and frankly batshit complaints and have decided to plant an entire forest of daffodils all over my lawn (LL said it's fine as long as daffodils are kept tidy and maintained).

AIBU?

NB - all over the lawn might be overkill. I'll probably just replace the ones I culled to pacify the neighbour and maybe plant one or two more.

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maddening Thu 04-Jun-20 22:36:21

This is becoming harassment, advise the landlord that you know that you are living within the realms of reasonable behaviour but the neighbour is bordering on harassment and any further you will be handing in your notice.

DandelionWars Thu 04-Jun-20 22:40:43

I've already mentioned harassment to the LL. he is coming around to inspect the daffodils and have a discussion re the daffodils and harassment once Covid is over.

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ExShield Thu 04-Jun-20 22:43:17

You need to get round the landlord first, so they are totally on your side. And THEN start on the retribution your neighbour so richly deserves.

Smidge001 Thu 04-Jun-20 22:45:25

I really want to know what the daffodils really are now.

leckford Thu 04-Jun-20 22:46:45

Daffodils in June?

DandelionWars Thu 04-Jun-20 22:50:19

I've employed the help of a gardener. The garden was in a poor state when I moved in and is now in a less poor state, with the help of someone who actually knows what they're doing it could be quite a nice garden so that should help with getting the LL on side.

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Butteredtoast55 Thu 04-Jun-20 22:50:35

They're not really daffodils. Nor are they dandelions. Names have been changed for anonymity. There's also a thing that makes a noise. I can't really be bothered.

BluePheasant Thu 04-Jun-20 22:50:42

If moving in the near future is at all feasible then do it. This really doesn't sound worth the stress and hassle. Neighbour sounds unhinged.

MsJaneAusten Thu 04-Jun-20 22:51:47

YANBU. obviously.

Except that you need to tell us what the plant is. I’m mentally around my own garden: poppies? buttercups? Daisies? Nettles?

TheMandalorian Thu 04-Jun-20 22:52:17

Neighbour is batshit. Stop accommodating her crazy requests. Let your landlord know she is harassing you.
What are the daffodils and what's wrong with dandelions?
daffodil cake

WorkingItOutAsIGo Thu 04-Jun-20 22:55:18

There is no way your neighbour only does this to you. You are on a much stronger footing with your landlord than you think. He wants to rent out a property where the next door neighbour harasses his tenants. That means he has to be on his tenants side. I suggest you begin to make noises about it being impossible to live next door to this harassing neighbour. Ask him how his previous tenants have coped. Ask him if previous tenants have suffered and have they left early? He might begin to realise the neighbour is threatening his income stream.

Nameisthegame Thu 04-Jun-20 22:58:28

I would be tempted to tell ll that I would be reporting neighbor officially for harassment. Don’t quote me me but I think official neighbor disputes have to be revealed when selling a property.

Will0wtree Thu 04-Jun-20 23:04:44

Were they daffodils or dandelions or what?

Until I know what the yellow flower is i can't concentrate on the rest of the issue.....

Longdistance Thu 04-Jun-20 23:07:30

Tell the silly fucker you live next door to her not with her. She’s being a right dick. Yy to reporting for harassment. You have a right to enjoy your home.

Samtsirch Thu 04-Jun-20 23:11:41

Just ignore the neighbour.
Smile and wave, do not respond to complaints / requests.
All communication should be between your LL and your self.
To respond to your neighbour, beyond a smile / wave is simply feeding their need for control , attention and importance , or drama.

DandelionWars Thu 04-Jun-20 23:13:24

They're not yellow. the things I have in my garden have red flowers and are not a weed. The things the neighbour thinks they are have purple flowers and are classed as a weed (although I'd still like those if they were in my garden). In fairness, they're not that attractive and look exactly like their wild, weedy cousin apart from the colour, so I understand why she does not like them and thinks they're a weed but they're not in her garden. She doesn't have to look at them. They are along the party fence but at no point have I ever said she cannot erect a screen along her side of the fence or trim anything that pokes through the fence.

I did have daffodils but they're gone for the season now. The gardener has replaced them with different yellow flowers which are also not dandelions. I have no clue what they are, they're yellow and pretty and now growing in the border where the daffodils were until they died.

There is also an abundance of dandelions on the grass but the gardener is taking steps to remove them by lawnmowering over them before they seed as I said he wasn't allowed to use poison because bees.

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Marnie76 Thu 04-Jun-20 23:13:44

I’m guessing Miss Buttercup in the lounge with a ukulele

PregnantPorcupine Thu 04-Jun-20 23:15:19

I thought this was going to be a gardening thread <disappointed>

So long as the daffodils/dandelions aren't actually bindweed/ground elder: plant what you like smile

TeeniefaeTroon Thu 04-Jun-20 23:19:40

Must be poppies, I love them. Sprinkle lots more seeds, I would.

PregnantPorcupine Thu 04-Jun-20 23:20:42

Red Campion? Red Valerian? Poppies???

Kiki275 Thu 04-Jun-20 23:21:55

Lupins/ foxgloves?

DandelionWars Thu 04-Jun-20 23:26:17

Daffodils and dandelions are about the limit of my knowledge of foliage. I know what the things the neighbour is complaining about are because my ex told me when he asked if he could take them to make things with and no-one has guessed but I can't confirm nor deny the existance of any other flower or weed in my garden because I don't know, hence the employment of a person who knows what they're doing grin

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Merryoldgoat Thu 04-Jun-20 23:27:42

I would go round there. I’d say to her very clearly and firmly that she is harassing you. You have a record of all incidents. You have reported her to your landlord and if you hear from her one more time you will be contacting the police,

Tell her she will not hound you out of your home and that you don’t want any more of her shit.

You need to stand your ground. She’s a bully.

TimeWastingButFun Thu 04-Jun-20 23:28:43

This is quite vague so it's hard to follow, but a neighbour doesn't have the right to tell you what flowers to have or not have in your garden, and if you give an inch by pandering to them, they're in. Just keep the garden generally tidy, don't engage with the mad neighbour and let your landlord know that you're getting harassed by them.

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