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To wonder if there are ways of training yourself to become more thick-skinned?

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beachmist Thu 04-Jun-20 16:28:01

I have always been very sensitive but this has become something of an understatement since becoming a Mum at the start of this year. I seem to take everything to heart. My partner is always telling me not to take things so literally, or to stop worrying so much about what others think about me.

I wish it was that easy, and I do agree with him that my life would be a lot easier if I could just shrug those little comments off.

Does anybody else struggle with feeling over-sensitive and overthinking things a lot? If so, do you have any strategies that help you cope with this?

I would love to hear some advice if anybody has any to offer smile

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araiwa Thu 04-Jun-20 16:33:10

Friends family and professionally i care

Everyone else. No

Lifes too short to sweat small pointless stuff

Lockeduporknockedup Thu 04-Jun-20 17:51:01

I'm pretty thick skinned and I have no idea if it's normal but here's what I do - try to turn absolutely anything into a compliment.
For example, if someone says "I don't really think you tried very hard with this project", I'll tell myself "this person thinks that I'm capable of a very high calibre of work". Or, if someone says "you've gained weight", I'll think "they must think I've been enjoying myself recently or have high confidence. Alternatively, maybe I look healthier or was so skinny before that they think I should've gained weight and now look great". Or "you're a really bad driver" could be "this person really cares about my safety and wants me to take extra precautions so nothing happens to me".
It sounds ridiculous but it really makes you see the world as a positive place haha.

Auridon4life Thu 04-Jun-20 18:15:33

Any hints or tips would be welcome everything. My skin is wafer thin at the moment.

Colom Thu 04-Jun-20 18:16:42

If you're on instagram follow the holistic psychologist. Sounds a bit woo at first but I've found a lot of it quite valuable.

People's judgements are very often reflections of their own ego and conditioning and most likely nothing to do with you at all. Much like your reactions to comments are a reflection of your conditioning and ego.

It's quite freeing to keep that thought in mind - I'm able to let so many things slide of my back that previously I would have replayed over and over and worried about.

A shift in perspective is all that's needed.

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Cam2020 Thu 04-Jun-20 18:42:33

How do you consider your self esteem in general, OP? I think the only way to become thicker skinned is to be confident in yourself. I was pretty sensitive and took things personally when I was younger but have cared less as I've got older.

EmeraldShamrock Thu 04-Jun-20 18:43:01

Age. It comes with years there is some deflecting coping mechanisms you can learn to ignore the nasty comment. You cannot change or control when someone is insensitive but you can change your reaction to it.

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