I moved in with my partner 6 months ago after three and a half years of living 90 miles apart. It was to test the waters to see if we were compatible to be together long term, buy a house etc. We originally met online after both our marriages came to an end. We saw each other at weekends, and if I’m honest I always had niggling doubts, but my self esteem was low and I was lonely.
In January it was clear to me for so many reasons that. I couldn’t carry on with the relationship and that in fact I would be better off on my own. It felt sad, but I knew it was the right decision. We agreed to remain friends and it felt like we could.
I met up with him a couple of weeks ago and he proudly announced that he had been meeting up with a group of people in a local park for a few drinks on a weekly basis. This was well before any lockdown restrictions had been eased. He also told me that he had started a new relationship with a woman he had met online, and that she is a nurse working in a hospital. The implications of this sunk in, that a nurse who takes care of vulnerable people has broken lockdown to meet up with a stranger. There is no social distancing, as he happily informed me that they are in and out of each other’s houses and probably beds.
A day later he was displaying pictures of the two of them together, on Facebook, smiling in each other’s embraces. Day after day these pictures on his profile and hers.
AIBU that this bothers me on two levels. The first being ethical. She is showing a total disregard for her vulnerable patients by meeting with a stranger during lockdown to start a new relationship. He is equally being totally selfish. Two, although I was the one that ended the relationship, and I never doubted my decision to do so, it was an obvious two fingers up at me as if to say, “look at me, I am fine without you.” I get that he needed to do that a bit I do. This is sadly how social media is used. But it was a relentless onslaught, and I felt it was becoming nasty. I do have lingering sadness that a relationship that I invested so much in did not work out. I unfriendly him after three days. AIBU?
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Elsaolivia · 04/06/2020 06:50
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