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To want to finish my sentences

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Ghostlyglow Wed 03-Jun-20 10:10:40

DP starts talking before I've got my last word out. Infuriating. Particularly when he's interrupting me to explain what I was just telling him.

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GinDaddyRedux Wed 03-Jun-20 10:15:34

Have you talked to him about this? Does he acknowledge his (glaring!) fault? And has he made any effort to actually stop this behaviour?

I fear you'll get a lot of unhelpful responses without answers to these

HellSmith Wed 03-Jun-20 10:22:22

Are you one of these people who talk non stop? As much as I hate interrupting & talking over people, it's the only way that we will ever get to speak. If not continue to speak, but louder to block him out.

Ghostlyglow Wed 03-Jun-20 10:27:38

He knows he does it. I'm a pretty quiet person really - I was terribly shy when I was younger.

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chatwoo Wed 03-Jun-20 10:34:40

I get this too sometimes.
I hope you pull him up on it every time?

LillianBland Wed 03-Jun-20 10:36:57

Oh lord! I have a male friend that does this too! It does my head in. The worse thing is the fact that he starts an argument by putting words into my mouth and arguing against what he ‘thinks’ I was about say! So he basically argues with himself. 🤣

Ghostlyglow Wed 03-Jun-20 10:40:03

Yes! @LillianBland. "so what you're saying is..."

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ItsAHardKn0ckLife1 Wed 03-Jun-20 10:41:37

DH does this all.the.time.

Absolutely infuriating.

He tries to guess what I’m going to say and attempts to finish my sentence for me with something completely different.

And when he does let me finish, he’s quite blatantly just waiting for me to shut up so he can speak hmm

GreenTulips Wed 03-Jun-20 10:42:11

Have you talked to him about this

She would of he didn’t finish her sentences

ItsAHardKn0ckLife1 Wed 03-Jun-20 10:42:28

@LillianBland are you friends with my DH wink

Ghostlyglow Wed 03-Jun-20 10:44:36

He does it more when he's stressed, I think. We've had a rotten couple of weeks, but still the last couple of days he's been driving me up the wall with it.

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Ghostlyglow Wed 03-Jun-20 10:46:33

@GreenTulips gringrin Many a true word.....

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lottiegarbanzo Wed 03-Jun-20 10:46:44

Just stop speaking. Fold your arms and wait for him to finish. Then say 'as I was saying...'

LillianBland Wed 03-Jun-20 10:51:01

ItsAHardKn0ckLife1

*@LillianBland are you friends with my DH wink*

Oh lord! He’s never married, which is a good thing for him and every woman, otherwise she’d be in jail and he’d be under the patio!

Ghostlyglow Wed 03-Jun-20 10:57:29

@lottiegarbanzo that gets me the eye roll 🙄🙄🙄grin

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Dogsovercats Wed 03-Jun-20 11:00:33

Mine does this too. He'll start explaining what he thinks I'm telling him or asking him before I finish. I usually wait for him to finish then say 'so do you want me to continue what I was saying'?

He feels bad as soon as he realises he's done it but it doesn't stop him doing it again!! grrr!

pussycatinboots Wed 03-Jun-20 11:03:40

Either carry on and talk over him.
Repeat what you began to say when he has finished.
Do the folding arms and glaring thing.
or stick your fingers in your ears and sing "LALALALA" until he stops.

Good Luck.

SnuggyBuggy Wed 03-Jun-20 11:03:49

I think the problem is you get people who seem to prefer to guess what the other person is going to say rather than actually listen but you also get people who talk in monologue rather than a back and forth conversation. It's hard to tell what's happening without being there.

Ghostlyglow Wed 03-Jun-20 11:04:54

I'm sometimes utterly baffled by what he assumes I'm thinking/was going to say (and we've been together a looong time)

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DuckALaurent Wed 03-Jun-20 11:04:55

DD sometimes does this but she’s a teen. DH on the odd occasion might do it.

Both of them get the ‘look’ followed by me saying “if you let me finish my sentence”.

Don’t put up with it OP, it’s bloody rude!

MummBraTheEverLeaking Wed 03-Jun-20 11:05:24

Me and DH are both guilty of this to each other, and we both hate it so whoever is doing it will get a hard Paddington stare from the other to stop us in our tracks.

lottiegarbanzo Wed 03-Jun-20 11:06:16

Who cares if he eye rolls? That's just double rude!

The other tactic is to keep talking, louder. Then at least he'll know you're not hearing what he's saying.

tenlittlecygnets Wed 03-Jun-20 11:07:03

that gets me the eye roll

But that's not funny. If your dh doesn't listen to you, constantly interrupts and mansplains, then eye rolls at you if you call him out on this, where are you going to go from here? That's so disrespectful. Does he do this to everyone else, or just you? I bet he can hold his tongue in meetings with his boss hmm

You're going to have to sit down and tell him how annoying his habit is, and he will have to find a way to STFU and listen - perhaps send him a link to an article on mindful listening or active listening. But he sounds like an annoying twat. Conversation is a pretty big part of a marriage.

Mine does this sometimes. I'll tell him about an annoying thing that happened at work and he'll start telling me how to run my own business, and I have to remind him I've been doing it for 20 years and I just wanted to moan, not have unasked-for advice...

MadamShazam Wed 03-Jun-20 11:14:03

My DH has a really annoying habit of saying 'its not that' when we are discussing anything. I used to let it go, but now I pull him up for it every single time. I just say "actually it is exactly that, and stop dismissing what i have just said!" Your DH is being extremely rude, keep calling him on his behaviour!

lottiegarbanzo Wed 03-Jun-20 11:16:49

Have you tried eye-rolling, sighing and saying 'here we go again..' ?

Rudeness can serve to highlight rudeness.

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