To cut a long story short my DSis has always been the favourite and got away with more than I would.
To set the scene -
I borrowed some money when I moved and I repay it every single month and God help me if I forget. Over the years DSis has borrowed thousands (I'd say 2-3x) what I owe, promises to pay it back and then nothing is done and it's fine. She can do no wrong.
Lately DSis has developed this high horse that I cannot stand, she is always preaching.
For example we got a new sofa and said we were taking the old one to the dump. The old one had toddler pee and poo on it, we'd had sex on it, spilled coffee and tea stains, wine stains, juice stains and cat sick on it (obviously it had always been cleaned but it wasn't clean iykwim). It also had threads hanging off because of the cats. We decided to skip it because we wouldn't feel right with someone else having it in a poor condition. She questioned me relentlessly on this decision until I basically explained every single point.
Now, I donate to charities and help others. I've fundraised for UNICEF and always donate clothes, toys, toiletries and put in for the food bank. I do it quietly.
This is a running theme whereby she questions everything constantly if she doesn't agree.
Today my DS put a post on social media that I made him remove. I made him remove it because it was too mature for him, he didn't understand the nuances behind it and didn't want to. He had no interest in the subject and it would open him up to potential targeting. I told him we could discuss it tonight but he didn't want to.
Next minute I have DSis questioning every single decision I made. Constantly asking why, telling me that education is better than that and I should do X/Y/Z. I explained my point but not it wasn't enough, she kept pressing. As in I reiterated myself over and over for at least half an hour whilst she kept nipping at her point.
I snapped, I told her to fuck off and leave me alone. Highlighted that she had no kids and yet gave out advice like Super Nanny and she can't even train her bloody dog (it jumps constantly, still toilets in the house etc) so she has no right to comment on anyone's parenting.
My parents have taken her side as there was "no need to snap".
Aibu to think that actually, if you are going to press someone constantly then it shouldn't be a surprise when they do snap?
Yabu - shouldn't have snapped at her, she was only asking.
Yanbu - she had it coming.
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PixiePowered · 01/06/2020 21:21
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