To ask whether you think that moving away after a divorce/break up ever works?

[GGhiutc]

DD is in her late 20s and has recently broken up with DP of 8 years. We live in a small town where most people know one another, which has made things harder for DD in terms of moving on as she’s frequently bumping in to him/his friends/family in the area whilst out exercising or shopping and finds herself being constantly reminded of their relationship by being in the area.

DD rung this morning to tell us that she intends to move away to a new area (a city just under 100 miles away) for a fresh start next month. All of her friends and family live in this town, so she’ll be far away from anyone she knows and plans to live in a house share with other professionals (she works from home).

Genuinely interested to know whether running away to ‘start a new life’ ever really works in this scenario, as in my view surely the problems always follow. WIBU to encourage DD to remain here and come to terms with the breakup over time?

[GGhiutc]

Should point out that no DC are involved, but she does have lots of ties to her hometown (friends/family)

[peachgreen]

Sounds like a great idea. I did the same after a break up and it was the best thing I ever did. Let her live her life.

[OllyBJolly]

Best thing I did. Took me a good few years and so wish I'd left earlier.

It was great being able to "reinvent" myself and not be "Poor Olly, her X left her for someone else".

[flirtygirl]

Moving away is not running away.

She has her reasons and you need to respect them.

I have moved but for different reasons and in your daughters position I would have definitely considered it. Sometimes a change is exactly what is ended.

[GGhiutc]

Thanks everyone

[Flippinfurloughed]

Why are you posting about this again? It was overwhelming last time that you needed to let her live her life. You need to let this go and support her in HER decisions!