My mum keep booking us 'surprise' holidays. What a terrible problem I know.
A few years ago they paid for us all to go to America which obviously was very generous . Since then they’ve booked us 3 UK holidays on consecutive years (last year went a step further and they had booked for themselves to come too – in the same caravan – yes it was as hideous as it sounds). No consultation or anything just presented as all booked and a done deal.
This year a surprise week booked for (us 4 only) on dates that DH couldn’t even do and there was a bit of stress trying to change dates/his leave.
Chatting to my mum last night and just mentioned I’d been looking at hols for 2021 making it clear I meant us 4 and she replied saying “we’ll be there, don’t book anything that’s all I’m saying wink wink..”. Argghh I don’t want to come across as ungrateful but aibu to say please stop! I’m 40, I want to book my own chuffing holiday! We can only afford one hol a year so whatever they book is our only break. It just feels a bit controlling but I know my mum does it from a good place, she knows we don't have a lot of spare money - she’s just a bit lacking in self awareness and thinks she’s doing a good thing.
I also really don’t fancy another holiday with them if that’s what she’s thinking, DH is a real introvert and found it very hard last year as did I, trying to make sure everyone is happy, they were offended when I suggested having even a few hours doing our own thing and my mum is crap with the kids, has no patience with them and spent the week sighing and asking when was it time for them to go to bed!!
Aibu in finding this too much? do I go with it as they won't be around forever or if not how do I broach it without sounding like an ungrateful cow?
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BettyOBarley · 01/06/2020 10:55
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