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Why do older men like the company of young women so much

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SassyCat3 Sat 30-May-20 09:34:03

I don't mean sexually. I mean friendships.

Everywhere I've worked, there have been loads of men (50+) who are friendlier with younger women (in their 20s) yet don't behave the same way to other demographics. Yet women don't act the same way around younger men.

Is it an ego thing, or do they genuinely think younger women are more fun and interesting to be around?

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middleager Sat 30-May-20 09:38:07

Sex (ego).

MashedSpud Sat 30-May-20 09:40:02

They’re a bit sad and hope one of them finds him irresistible.

Ughmaybenot Sat 30-May-20 09:42:27

Because they're nice to look at and generally fairly high energy and fun to be around. All that which reminds the older man of their own youth, the youth they’d love to revisit.

CourtneyLurve Sat 30-May-20 09:43:57

Men want women who are in awe of them. Older women can usually see through the bullshit/are less impressed.

treenu Sat 30-May-20 09:48:51

Courtneylurve- you beat me to it! My boss does this, surrounds himself with young women and those of us that can see through him are bitter! I don't even think I'm old!

Stripesgalore Sat 30-May-20 09:50:27

Sex, power and status.

Aisforharlot Sat 30-May-20 09:51:23

Ego stroking. Young women are more likely to laugh At their jokes and be deferential. Women their own age will roll their eyes.

Clancey Sat 30-May-20 09:51:56

They’ve got their youth, & the old gits probably find this refreshing compared to their 50+ partners. Of course there’s also the possibility of a shag out of it too.

Mrspeachhh Sat 30-May-20 09:52:43


dottiedodah Sat 30-May-20 12:20:43

Its an ego boost really isnt it?! Remember reading somewhere that men want to marry someone like their daughters ,and women someone like their fathers!(Not literally obv!) The attraction of power , life experience and a more comfortable life position ,will attract beautiful young women to older men ,Think Carrie/Boris .Bernie/Fabiana. Micheal/Catherine to name but a few .Older men to young women needing no explanation obv!

trellishead Sat 30-May-20 12:33:08

Who cares? Maybe they are less bitter.

Macncheeseballs Sat 30-May-20 12:34:40

Less bitter than the op? That's a little snarky

trellishead Sat 30-May-20 12:36:17

Yes, less bitter. It's not not nice to be around judgemental people. Get it?

WhatWouldYouDoWhatWouldJesusDo Sat 30-May-20 12:36:39

I think when we become adults age in friendships matters less.

Most of my friends are older. I'm in my 30s, one of my closest friends is in her 70s.

My youngest friend is in her 50s. I have a few male friends too and the dynamic is roughly the's just the way it panned out. 💁🏻‍♀️

trellishead Sat 30-May-20 12:39:48

You only have to look at the responses to see how bitter people really are. Wiseness doesn't automatically happen with age. That's a real lesson for you to learn. Once that's realised, you can understand that it really isn't an age thing when people choose or gravitate towards another. Rationalise it to suit your narrative all you want.

trellishead Sat 30-May-20 12:40:45

Wisdom even. grin

OldLace Sat 30-May-20 12:49:44

Friendships across age ranges can be very beneficial.
I've always been drawn to people 20/-30 years older than me.

But the older man can be drawn to the younger woman because he is trying to 're-live' his youth / lost opportunities yes.
Or, more cynically, because he finds less experience on her part makes him look 'better' and there is the fact she will be young and attractive sexually too.

Sindragosan Sat 30-May-20 12:54:29

I find older men are much less trouble generally - they're settled in life and in their job, and generally secure in themselves. Happy to pass on their experience - it makes them feel better and helps younger ones.

Similar ages, especially in work, are likely to be chasing the same jobs, projects etc, and it can be tough to get a 'proper' friendship with someone who could get that job you really want etc.

1300cakes Sat 30-May-20 12:55:21

Gosh what a mystery grin How will we ever work out why old men seek out the company of young, sexually attractive women? Is Sherlock Holmes available, this one is a real head scratcher.

OverUnderSidewaysDown Sat 30-May-20 13:02:40


Mummyshark2019 Sat 30-May-20 13:05:45

Makes them feel young and superior.

PicsInRed Sat 30-May-20 13:09:15

I don't mean sexually. I mean friendships.

They're not friendships. 🤣🤣🤣

Pumpertrumper Sat 30-May-20 13:14:33

I heard the best explanation of this years ago (when I was the young girl in an office of 40 something men).

‘Men like to feel like they have their shit together but they’re always on the back foot with women their own age. Those 40 something women call them on their bullshit. Whilst a 20 year girl thinks it’s cool they have a car, job and home, the 40 something woman is fed up they didn’t wash the car, get a promotion or hoover without being asked. Younger women generally expect a lot less and flatter their ego!’

Patch23042 Sat 30-May-20 13:18:50

The type of 50yo man who surrounds himself with numerous twentysomething women is not interested in “friendship”. Look at the ghastly Philip Green with all the models on his yacht.

The odd one or two mates who happen to be younger but are on the same wavelength, fair enough. Bruce Forsyth’s relationship with Tess Daly struck me as being like this - sincere, no-strings. Although I don’t know for sure of course 😆

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