First issue: My lovely ds has adhd and I’ve known for years, despite his primary school telling me he wasn’t “naughty enough” to have it (yes that is what they actually said). He’s now about to be assessed and formally diagnosed and his secondary school are amazing - they are pretty much 100% sure he has it. The problem I have is other people who we’ve told keep saying “no he hasn’t, he’s just being a boy” because he’s fidgety and chatty. They don’t see how much he struggles with focus and I feel so angry that the few close people we’ve told have nearly all reacted like this because ds doesn’t fit some of the inaccurate stereotypes of ADHD.
Second issue: My other lovely ds has ocd and asd and again we’ve not told many people but the people we have overwhelmingly don’t believe me. He’s been through camhs and his ocd is really debilitating but apparently he’s “too laid back”, “doesn’t come across as anxious”, “too sociable to be autistic” or “just a typical teenager”. I’m actually f**king fed up of this now and furious and my boys find life so tough at times. Thankfully their school, psychologist, camhs assessor, gp etc are fully supportive and the boys themselves want to be open with close family and family friends. They are not ashamed of who they are and neither am I.
People are really pissing me off and I want to know WIBU to be firmer with people than feeling I have to defend my dc?
Has anyone else experienced this?
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“He’s just being a boy”/ “he’s a typical teenager”. Aaaaaargh!
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CanICelebrate · 30/05/2020 08:10
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