I’m stuck. I’ve done everything “backwards”. I graduated uni at 21 and had my child 5 months later. My question is, how should I lead my life now? I’m not asking because I’m too weak to make those decisions by myself but I’d like to know what you’d do in my shoes.
So, my son is nearly 18 months and I’m nearly 23. I’m with a supportive partner, who I trust and who would always be faithful to me and whatever family I decide I’d like (he’s flexible to the number of children we have). Nevertheless, he’s basically not domesticated- a bit of a piggy when it comes to the house. But other than that I can’t complain, he’s a family man.
I always dreamed of having a family and children, just never ever this young
(I thought I’d be at least 28). I’m happy but it’s bloody hard, especially financially. I’ve just started working part-time again and now we have the opportunity to buy our own home after being gifted a small deposit (we would never have been able to do this with our son on our own, so we’re incredibly lucky).
I just want to ask when you’d decide to have another child in our position?
I really don’t feel like another, though I know I’d want one one day, and I wouldn’t have another until we buy our own home (which hopefully we’ll be able to do in a year). Basically, there’s 10 years between me and my sibling and, although I love him very much, I always felt lonely as a child. I feel like I shouldn’t have more than a 3-4 year age gap between my child and the next sibling even though I’m not sure that’s going to work for me? What would you do?
I didn’t plan to have a child young, while pretty broke! I always thought I’d have two children close together while I was older and more financially stable. I just feel so bad for my son for not giving him this reality :(
P.s I’m sorry for the ramble
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Noti23 · 30/05/2020 00:05
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Am I being unreasonable?
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