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Inessential shopping AIBU?

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Rosieposy4 Fri 29-May-20 22:34:02

DS2 recently graduated as a doctor and has started work as an FiY1 about 3 hours from home ( his uni placed them at their last placement hospital), in a hospital where no shops are within walking distance.
He is working a rolling rota of 3 days of 12h plus shifts on, then 3 days off. ( He is on a covid ward and has seen many deaths if relevant)
His copy of the BMJ ( a general medical journal) comes to our house, so each week on the way home from my weekly shopping trip I call into the garage ( go past it) and buy a packet of percy pigs , then call into the post office and send him the journal and the pigs ( he is tired on day 1 of rest, bored on days 2 and 3)
As the weeks go on the person in the garage has got more and more grumpy with me, and this week was full on “ is this all you are buying”
Am IBU sending my poor boy a packet of sweets each week?

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nasalspray Fri 29-May-20 22:37:12

These threads are getting really boring now. Nobody really gives a fuck either way.

Cornana Fri 29-May-20 22:37:41

As long as you keep 2m distance from other people, I don’t think YABU.

On Monday people can meet in gardens, groups of up to six with 2m’s distance. Surely by now it is time for the ‘shopping police’ to stop?

Cornana Fri 29-May-20 22:38:33

Also, it doesn’t really matter what we think. You’re not breaking any of the rules, it’s up to you to do as you please within them.

Rosieposy4 Fri 29-May-20 22:40:31

Nasal, sorry you think it’s boring, move on by.
I had the full on “ hard “ treatment from the staff today, i felt hard done by but wanted to know general opinion.

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Sparklingbrook Fri 29-May-20 22:41:00

So much needless information. grin

Can he not get the magazine delivered to his own place? You could buy the Percy Pigs in bulk and send him a box full.

winterisstillcoming Fri 29-May-20 22:41:32


next time buy 6 packets of Percy pigs and then take one every week to your son. If you are going to make non essential journeys then do them with a bit of common sense.

Collision Fri 29-May-20 22:43:25

Some grumpy people on here Tonight @Rosieposy4

Just ignore the cashier.

It’s fine what you are doing.

singme Fri 29-May-20 22:43:43

I think it’s lovely you’re doing that. By a few months into FY1 I was too tired to keep up with the BMJ but would have loved the sweets!

You can access it online I think though if you’d rather avoid sending it. Just need to log into BMA I think.

Rosieposy4 Fri 29-May-20 22:44:11

Sparkling, my thoughts too but one doesn’t want to run the risk of being accused of withholding essential info.
No point changing addresses, he is only there till mid July, then home briefly, then off to a totally different hospital

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Sparklingbrook Fri 29-May-20 22:46:13

I don't think anyone would have asked for any more info.

'AIBU to only buy a packet of Percy Pigs from the garage once a week?, the staff in there are commenting on it'

The End.

Rosieposy4 Fri 29-May-20 22:47:21

winter i am not taking the pigs to my son, or making any inessential journeys, I am adding in extra stop offs between home and the supermarket

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Ameliablue Fri 29-May-20 22:48:02

Why don't you just but a few bags at once and so reduce the number of times you are potentially putting someone at risk of send a pack of sweets that you get when doing your regular shop

Sparklingbrook Fri 29-May-20 22:48:52

YY I think bulk buying the sweets is the way to go.

Lemonylemony Fri 29-May-20 22:49:52

He can access BMJ online if he wants to read it. It’s sweet (haha) of you but pretty inappropriate. Why not order things online to be delivered to him instead.

StepAwayFromGoogle Fri 29-May-20 22:50:44

Christ, nasty much this evening, everyone. OP, you're doing nothing wrong but, as PP have suggested, maybe buy a job lot next time.

Eckhart Fri 29-May-20 22:50:54

He's watching people die and you are risking infection to send him Percy Pigs to make him feel better.

Logic fail.

malificent7 Fri 29-May-20 22:51:15

Tbh i think any shopping is ok.

Rosieposy4 Fri 29-May-20 22:55:08

Ok will bulk buy the pigs, don’t really think i am risking infection as have had covid already myself ( key worker transmission) and the garage is very quiet, but yes sensible suggestion ( theycan just think I am a piglet )

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nasalspray Fri 29-May-20 22:55:58

Nasal, sorry you think it’s boring, move on by.

Sorry. I genuinely thought you were being sarcastic in your OP after reading several similar threads re 'is it ok to'

I read you completely wrong. My apologies.

Sn0tnose Fri 29-May-20 22:57:09

They’re 2 quid. Just buy half a dozen bags at a time.

VenusTiger Fri 29-May-20 22:58:01

OP, I think sending your son his magazine and some making a point of stopping to buy him a treat is a sweet thing to do and it's become a routine - I actually think the shopkeeper is just getting annoyed with the fact you're not buying any fuel and probably wonders why you can't visit an M&S Foodhall instead - he's just being a grump, ignore him.
Next time, buy enough bags to last until your son moves and send him his weekly parcel without stopping at the petrol station.

VenusTiger Fri 29-May-20 23:00:56

*don't know where that random 'some' came from

Samtsirch Fri 29-May-20 23:02:01

Just smile at the person in the garage and thank them for their concern.
It sounds as though the garage worker has their own problems going on.
Sometimes the small things our parents do for us make a massive difference and hopefully you are brightening up your son’s week when they arrive.

Sparklingbrook Fri 29-May-20 23:02:50

If the BMJ is online then send a box of Percy Pigs and job done.

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