Shoes in the house

[Warsawa31]

Lighthearted - My wife has a really annoying rule about no shoes in the house. I do get it, but she is crazy about it 😂 slippers to be worn on carpet but not on the bathroom Matt. When people come on with shoes (think tradesmen etc) she has to mop with bleach - this isn’t corona related at all it’s just something she has ales done. She also has a rule of no clothes to be worn in bed - I don’t mind that one to be fair lol, but just wondered what other people do in their houses ?

[MyBlueMoonbeam]

I'm the same - OCD sufferer 🤦‍♀️

[goatley]

Shoes are dirty.

I prefer no shoes in our house but since getting hard flooring put down I am less bothered as can mop it more easily.

No shoes on carpet though.

[NowYouListenToMeFella]

I don't like wearing shoes around my house, but don't mind if other people do.

[Pipandmum]

Unless covered in mud I don't care about shoes in the house, but I k ow many who do. But the no slippers in the bathroom is weird. And I am actually now lying in my bed with my clothes on 😱😱😱

[Tableclothing]

Ah we've not had one of these for a while!

The usual mumsnet wisdom is that working class and upper class households keep their shoes on, because they dgaf, only the middle classes insist on shoes off. Then someone will bring up Sweden and Japan and ask if they are entirely middle class. Someone gets upset at being called neurotic and someone else gets upset at being called dirty. Someone else points out that they don't eat off the floor so what difference does it make, and someone else wants to know if you wash the dog's feet every time they come in. A lively debate ensues on the relative rudeness of keeping your shoes on in someone else's house versus the rudeness of asking someone to remove their shoes. People share their disgust at the thought of other people's unshod feet walking their carpets.

Someone somewhere probably wanks over all the filth-shaming.

[Warsawa31]

@pipandmum 😂 that’s a massive no no - on top of the bed in underwear is ok - if I got under the covers With clothes on we would have to change the sheets. When were first dating she said You have to take off all your clothes before getting in bed I was very happy haha, but no it wasn’t for that it was for hygiene!

[Warsawa31]

@Tableclothing spoiler alert!

[CountFosco]

I never understand this. It's hot today, we have the doors open to the garden, everyone in the family is running in and out the whole time, sometimes in bare feet, sometimes with shoes. Do 'no shoes in the house' people insist on their children putting on shoes every time they run out to the garden and taking them off when they come in? Do they never walk outside in bare feet (e.g. on grass or at the beach)? Do they then have special dirty-on-the-inside-clean-on-the-outside shoes so they can get from the door to wherever they can wash their feet to remove all the scary outside dirt? Why don't they get rid of their carpets if they are so scared of dirt? It's also confusing. But I grew up in Scotland where it's considered rude to take your shoes off in someone else's house so cultural differences I guess.

[Twigletfairy]

I don't mind guests walking around with shoes on, but my husband wears shoes everywhere. He's climbed on top of the bed wearing shoes before, drives me bloody mad. He has slippers, I don't understand why he can't wear those.

It's not even a dirt thing, wearing shoes indoors just annoys me

[chunkyrun]

It makes me cringe! Shoes are dirty.

[hellsbellsmelons]

Each to their own on this one.
Some people don't like shoes in the house and others don't mind.
I have wood flooring and tiles downstairs so it doesn't bother me at all.
But the clothes in bed is a bit odd.
Does that also mean PJs?
Don't get me wrong, I don't wear anything in bed.
But surely, sweating directly onto the bedding is worse?
She does sound a bit OCD though.
Does she have a problem she admits to?

[Clancey]

I take my shoes off by the front door, most of the time.

The majority on MN keep their underwear on in bed, well they did last time someone asked.

[Doggybiccys]

I wouldn’t dream of asking DH or anyone else for that matter to remove their shoes on entry to my home. I find it annoying and snobby that people do. I don’t get your point about clothes on in bed under the sheets - why would anyone do that??

[BarbedBloom]

No shoes here. We lived in South Korea for a while and got very used to it

[Alsohuman]

Not again. Find one of the eleventy billion threads where this has already been battled out.

[letmethinkaboutitfornow]

@Tableclothing - haha! Summed it up!

[howlatthetrees]

No shoes in my house either, I take my shoes off in others houses too

[Tableclothing]

Sorry OP.

Serious answer - your wife's standards do sound like they're on the stricter side. Is she quite an anxious person generally? Rules like that can be a (disproportionate) way of trying to feel safe.

If a) you do think it's a problem and b) your wife agrees that her anxieties are unhelpful and impacting on others, then there's help available through the NHS. GP would be the first person to speak to. Obviously what with covid the services may not be available right now but they will pick up again.

[TippledPink]

By clothes in bed, do you mean any clothing? So no PJ's either? Always naked in bed?

[CatBatCat]

@motherinferior

At its best, the NHS can deliver an amazing birth. For free.

Where's your mumsnet spirit? Its tradition, like Christmas, got to be argued about at least once a year.

[CatBatCat]

Thats not the quote I quoted.

@mnhq you're quote button is broken

[GoGadgetGo]

If the house has carpet, then I think shoes shouldn't be worn in the house by anyone. Unless you have hard flooring that can be cleaned.
this includes workman. I remember my dad telling workman when I was a kid to remove their shoes and at the time I found it embarrassing, but as I got slightly older I understood why. People tred in poo and spit and then bring that into the home. They did as he said.
The other things you listed are a bit OTT for my liking, but shoes off.
I always take mine off when visiting homes.

[GoGadgetGo]

@Tableclothing
My family are working class and it has always been shoes off.
Yes we were a rare breed back in our street as a kid.

[JJJJJ00000]

Generally I don't like things on feet anyway so always kick my shoes off when I walk in, do it in other peoples houses too if I'm comfortable enough with them. Not bothered if other people do or don't do it though, personal preference lol

[SpudsGuns]

Oh. Is it time for this debate again already? How time flies.