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Not speaking to friend because she saw boyfriend.

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FeistyOne Thu 28-May-20 19:43:10

A bit peed off with my friend. Her and her boyfriend live seperately but the past week have been visiting each other's houses and going on walks.
I think this is a bit hypocritical since from March until now she has been moaning that people need to follow lockdown so life can go back to normal.
I messaged her saying cant believe people are breaking lockdown and using cummings as an excuse and she said that the past week she has been going on walks and seeing him because she hasnt seen him for 3 months and couldnt cope any longer.

I think it's selfish. They live 20 minutes away from each other and risking things just because they miss each other

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FeistyOne Thu 28-May-20 19:43:42

Forgot to add, we had an argument because I said she was being selfish

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GhostCurry Thu 28-May-20 19:45:14

I don’t understand people like you.

TeenPlusTwenties Thu 28-May-20 19:45:46

I think it all depends on
- who else is in their households
- what jobs they have been doing
- to what extent they socially distanced when meeting up

Inoneminute Thu 28-May-20 19:48:32

I think asking people not to see partners was unrealistic and unkind. I'm amazed peope have been able to stick to it as long as they have. I'm not at all surprised peope have decided, this week, that enough is enough.

Apolloanddaphne Thu 28-May-20 19:49:18

I really cannot get angsty about that. My BIL's partner sometimes stays at his and sometimes at hers. She has done this all the way through lockdown. She lives alone so nothing really changes in between her visits.

HugeAckmansWife Thu 28-May-20 19:50:59

I've been seeing mine. He wfh and sees no one. I'm likewise when my kids are at their dad's. We didn't see each other for about 6 weeks but since then have had a few weekends together. We're adults with brains who can risk assess. Get a grip.

isthismylifenow Thu 28-May-20 19:51:20

Do you have a partner OP?

Plumplumbadum Thu 28-May-20 19:51:24

You're a bit of a spiteful friend aren't you.

Neron Thu 28-May-20 19:52:03

You can have a difference of opinion, however not talking to your friend because she's met her boyfriend for a walk is pathetic.

firstimemamma Thu 28-May-20 19:52:06

My friend is 'breaking lockdown' and I'm not. We haven't argued about it at all because it's not up to me whether she follows the rules or not. When she says what she's been up to I just smile and nod along politely. It's really not worth the drama op and also what's not speaking to your friend going to achieve? It's not going to change what she's doing. Yabu.

FeistyOne Thu 28-May-20 19:52:18

They're 24 and live with both their families (parents and siblings) but she said their families dont mind but surely people can wait just a few weeks later??

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MadameMarie Thu 28-May-20 19:52:19

Why does she think the rules don't apply to her?

FeistyOne Thu 28-May-20 19:53:01

Yes but me and my partner live together

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MadameMarie Thu 28-May-20 19:55:30

They're 24 and live with both their families (parents and siblings) but she said their families dont mind but surely people can wait just a few weeks later??

Tell her you hope she's not outside clapping for the NHS in 5 minutes.

Plumplumbadum Thu 28-May-20 19:55:41

So your partner lives with you. Perhaps an explanation for your lack of empathy for others.

isthismylifenow Thu 28-May-20 19:56:02

Imagine not seeing your partner for 3 months.

zafferana Thu 28-May-20 19:56:05

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Ohtherewearethen Thu 28-May-20 19:56:21

If they have both been isolating/socially distancing since lockdown then where is the risk?

HugeAckmansWife Thu 28-May-20 19:57:17

Bingo! So you have your life partner right there to support and reassure you at this stressful time. OK your friend isn't alone but siblings are mostly annoying and parents are not the same as your chosen loved one. Assuming both households have been reasonsbly good with SD etc, you are bring ridiculous and unkind. But well done you for doing lockdown better than her.

NailsNeedDoing Thu 28-May-20 19:58:09

It’s incredibly unfair of you to judge her when you live with your partner and she doesn’t live with hers. We’ve been doing this for long enough now, people need to be allowed to live.

sawollya Thu 28-May-20 19:58:24

Have a bit of compassion for ffs.

My boyfriend and I have totally drifted apart. I don't know if we can ever pick things back up. That's sad I think. We were happy. If somebody was angry with me for trying to rescue it, I'd tell them to fuck off and Id' mean it. And That's not really who I am.

ukgift2016 Thu 28-May-20 19:58:33

Who cares? Mind your business.

Dipi79 Thu 28-May-20 19:58:52

You sound immature and judgemental. I'm sure your friend can only benefit from you not speaking to her.

480Widdio Thu 28-May-20 19:58:57

Nothing to do with you,what an awful friend you are.

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