Need advice. Had a restless night sleep about this. My friend - he is an ex - but we are friends, well flirty friends and was considering getting g neck together before lockdown. We do get on as friends.
He has a teenager who he loves and used to see regularly. However as she entered her teens, she is being sulky and rebellious. She refuses to see him at times. It doesn’t help The guy and his ex have a terrible relationship. Calling each other names. The guy got fed up and blocked his ex, only communicating via teenager. Teenager very close to their mum. Think there is jealousy there.
Teenager gets upset and refuses to see their dad. Well the teenager did arrange a time, different from their arrangement and wanted to back to their mums early. Dad gets upset as sees it as ex controlling time with child. Sends an angry text to ex and Teenager upset, refuses to see dad.
Last night the guy called me distressed and angry. I was trying to get him to compromise and accept the situation so he could see teenager. No compromise, seeing the situation as a power struggle. Pointed out not fair on teenager and give it time. Lots of pity woo by me talk. I am always penalised no one likes me etc. It’s a situation he has reacted badly to and he can’t take responsibility.
Guy ended call saying he is hiding away and wants to be alone. It sounded more worrying than a pity threat. He has now deleted all accounts and no one can contact him. Mutual friends are texting me asking if heard from him. I don’t think he would do anything stupid. But what do I do?
He uses victim status in his life. Like everything is others fault and takes little responsibility for his actions. It’s like a drama triangle. He and his ex are fighting over the teenager like an object on who gets to spend the most time with wins. Teenager is upset and has spoken to me about it before to ask if I could get her parents to go for counselling. That suggestion didn’t end well
So do I try and support? Or just step away as it’s becoming a lot to deal with.
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Worried for a friend. Too caring or being used?
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Ginbunny1212 · 28/05/2020 10:34
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