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My hobby. His hobby.

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TomNook Wed 27-May-20 09:52:50

I know it’s ancient. I knoooooowww
But just let me rant at the anonymous hobby. The hobby that cannot be named.


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Confrontayshunme Wed 27-May-20 10:17:46

The only hobby that should be anonymous is one that'll end up with prison time. Not cycling or golf. Unless your DH is actually Chris Froome, no one will recognise you from a named hobby. hmm

ChilliCheese123 Wed 27-May-20 10:18:57

I just always assume it’s dressing up in those weird furry suits and being walked on a lead

Then seven posts later the OP comes back and reveals her hobby is .... cross stitch

ComtesseDeSpair Wed 27-May-20 10:23:25

“I won’t say what the hobby is because it’s outing” automatically makes me think the OP or their OH are pony play fetishists.

It almost always turns out to be badminton or chess or something.

Fluffybutter Wed 27-May-20 10:25:29

It’s always “he’s really famous in his circle so I can’t say “
Mate, he’s “famous” to about 3 other model train enthusiasts, I really doubt anyone but his mum would recognise him

MrsToothyBitch Wed 27-May-20 10:30:04

If your hobby is sooo "anonymous" it's cycling. Or dogging. End of.

That said, I don't explicitly name mine. Happy to say it's a form of dance though! blush

YouTheCat Wed 27-May-20 10:31:26

You're a Morris dancer!?

AJPTaylor Wed 27-May-20 10:41:54

Cycling or fishing. Ideal hobbies when you want to be out of the house days at a time.
It's always cycling though.
Whenever I see one of those road racing events in action i think of the mumsnetter wrangling 2 small children and searching the house, copying important documents.

KatherineJaneway Wed 27-May-20 11:01:46

It's always cycling

Pertella Wed 27-May-20 11:05:46

I wouldn't name mine, because although it's not that unusual theres only 1 place that does it in my city so it would be outing if someone could be arsed to look into it grin

GoddessArtemis Wed 27-May-20 11:12:13

My husband has what some would call a niche hobby, it's Kendo. There aren't many clubs in the UK and most don't have that many members but I wouldn't go online and be a tit about it 😁😁😁 he also cycles plays golf and skis and anything else that gets him out of the house 😂

FlamedToACrisp Wed 27-May-20 11:22:09

This is obviously cycling - so many rants on MN about it!

Puncture his tyres, and take up a hobby yourself.

notalwaysalondoner Wed 27-May-20 11:26:07

God I agree!!! I don’t feel why people think ANY hobby is outing!! Unless you are super specific about “DH is in the UK tiddlywinks team in the 40-45 age category and we live in Lincoln” might do it... but even tiddlywinks gives you thousands and thousands of people in the UK who do it...!

And when it’s cycling or fishing or golf it’s just bonkers. I reckon at least 1/4 men aged 25-65 are into one of the above so let’s stop pretending our DHs are sooooo younique.

PafLeChien Wed 27-May-20 11:26:33

why would anyone care? confused

Hobbies are outing, I recognised someone on here because of their hobby grin . I recognised the group mentioned, and name search and it was obvious who it was.

If you are talking about going for a ride or a job, it's anonymous, but if you start mentioning anything a bit specific, it's not. By definition, YOU who doesn't know the OP won't have a clue, but people in their bubbles will...

If you lie and change the hobby, it makes the whole thread full of inconsistencies and it's not worth it - with endless stupid questions or posts: "well he could cycle at 8am instead of 9 am" - but no, because it's not actually cycling he couldn't...

PafLeChien Wed 27-May-20 11:28:40

And when it’s cycling or fishing or golf it’s just bonkers. I reckon at least 1/4 men aged 25-65 are into one of the above so let’s stop pretending our DHs are sooooo younique.

you are missing the point. Start talking about a fishing lake, or a golfing tournament, or a work afternoon golf trip, and the people involved in the same thing will pick up details.

It's not about not being recognised by people you don't know, it's about the people in the same circle.

madcatladyforever Wed 27-May-20 11:34:13

Haha this makes me laugh. My main "hobby" is paganism and witchcraft and it is not something I want anybody at work to know about because their first thought is you're mental lol.
Other than that it's knitting, cross stitch, building dollshouses in miniature 1:44 scale and cats.
Oh yes and collecting geodes and large crystals and rocks.
But really who needs to know unless it's my sister or my mum, they make me happy.
I usually just tell people I like cross country walking.

MrsToothyBitch Wed 27-May-20 11:39:35

@AJPTaylor so do I! grin
@YouTheCat God no hmm. It's not "english" dancing.

MitziK Wed 27-May-20 11:43:37

Belly Dancing?

Or Irish?

There's only one way to find out - do you have a huge ginger curly wig or a collection of gauzy scarves and one with coins sewn on?

thecatsthecats Wed 27-May-20 11:49:14

The daft thing is, it's usually the exact circumstances of the AIBU that are the unique thing.

Couple in their thirties with kids in primary school, he likes cycling, she has a gym class = not outing.

Couple currently rowing about the precise storage location of bikes whilst his sister visits, who she hasn't liked since the wedding four years ago when she insulted the violet creme anglaise = outing.

francienolan Wed 27-May-20 11:51:36

I just always assume it’s dressing up in those weird furry suits and being walked on a lead


MrsToothyBitch Wed 27-May-20 12:02:50

@MitziK no & no. Plenty of opportunity for evening wear though- but it's not ballroom.

I don't name it because it seems to be relatively unheard of - people know it as my particular unusual hobby- and the demographic isn't really MN so I'd be traceable if anyone joined the dots. Also the one time I did mention it under a one-off NC, I found someone in another country in the UK with whom I had a common contact through the wider hobby. It's a small circle (although that can be true for anything, I guess)!

SeasonallySnowyPeasant Wed 27-May-20 12:04:23

It’s always cycling or golf. Both take hours, cost mighty mula if you take them seriously and so are perfect for caring arguments between parents with young children.

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