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Bad taste to enjoy lockdown(233 Posts)
To think it's bad taste for people to enjoy lockdown?
I think some people are sleeping and in total denial to the damage of it.
No. Its not bad taste. Life is hard enough. Would it make you happier if everyone was miserable?
People can enjoy what they want it's when they lack empathy for those struggling with it that I get annoyed.
Yes - we must all be completely miserable! How dare we smile and enjoy things to keep us going through this utterly shit time!
Get a fucking grip OP
I am very lucky. I know noone who has died or been seriously ill. I've been furloughed on full pay and my kids are a decent age so not too much trouble. Our last few weeks have been a bit boring and restricted but I'm not sure what is to be achieved by sitting in a dark room rending our clothes and crying. Making the best of the situation we are in is surely preferable from a lingte mental health point of view. We are all well aware of what this virus has cost many many people but I'm not going to apologise for appreciating our relatively fortunate position.
My husband has a severely life shortening illness and is clinically severely vulnerable. He’s recovering from a transplant. Lockdown means the kids and I get to spend lots and lots of time together with him as we school and wfh. I don’t feel this is ‘bad taste’ in the least!
I have been. First time in nearly 10 years I've got a sleep in (dh is working so does DC breakfast)
I have been ran ragged and the sudden stop was jolting for me.
I lost my job and there's fuck all chance of me getting another one in the foreseeable future.
So if I am taking this time to be thankful for what I actually do have, well you can do one if you think you're going to make me feel guilty.
I don’t think it’s in bad taste to say you’re enjoying aspects or enjoying it generally but acknowledge some people are suffering.
Someone I know has posted on Facebook that they hope this continues for another three months, we are the virus, etc. but she knows her daughter and son in law’s income has been decimated (with little or no access to help), that they’re now virtually on the breadline and her SIL was unable to see his dying mother at the end. I find that rather tasteless.
How ridiculous! I'm enjoying lockdown. Doesn't mean I want people to die.
Bad taste to try to maintain good mental health in a global pandemic? Yeah ok
YABU. It’s unlikely that people are going to enjoy every single aspect of lockdown, even if they have enjoyed it in the whole. What’s the point in being miserable about it. For lots of people, the reality is that they don’t know anyone that’s been affected by the virus and they’re just getting a lot of free time off work.
I'm sorry everyone - the last poster made my point clearer. I don't want to make anyone feel guilty. I have been enjoying aspects but it's just the lack of acknowledgement for the suffering of lockdown not just focusing on the virus.
I don't think it's bad taste. But people who are enjoying it should keep some awareness that it's not like that for everyone (just like in regular life you'd hope people are aware that others are in worse situations).
I made a conscious effort a few years ago to look on the bright side, be positive, enjoy life. It really helps. I am working full time, home schooling etc. Yeah at times it is tough, but then so is normal life too. I see no reason not to enjoy my life in lockdown as much as my normal life.
Ok so the economy might be in a bad place, but I am working paying taxes, doing my bit so I don't see why I shouldn't enjoy having a quieter start to the day without the school run and seeing more of my family.
No. We are not Borg. No one can dictate others’ experience based on their own.
It's a balance. We need to keep positive as much as possible, without losing sight of why we are doing it. A lot of people are struggling for various reasons. Social media rubbing people's noses in it doesn't help... But many of those are just trying to make the best of it.
Anything about hoping lockdown continues is just selfishness.
I hate lockdown but I don't think it's in bad taste to enjoy it. We all live differently.
I am sick of sanctimonious people telling me to enjoy "the slower pace of life" though. I don't want a slow life, I like a busy life.
Well, I am enjoying the change in routine. Both Dp and I are wfh, so lucky to not have income effected. Doesn't mean we aren't worried or sympathetic towards people we know who have been hit hard though.
Out teens have struggled, and we miss extended family, but I am making the best of everyday, what else should we do? Wail like I was looking at the sistine chapel everyday?
Like with a lot of things, everything has positives and negatives and everyone has different experiences based on their own circumstances.
Personally on the whole for me lockdown has been ok, but that's not so say I'm ready for things to start properly going back to normal, we need to learn to live with this virus now, and I'm sure like everyone some days have been better than others. In all of this I'm more worried about 4 year old DS' education, social skills, relationships with people outside of dh and I and chance to do the things he loves again like swimming, more than I am about me and my day to day experience.
I've been working from home as was my partner until he took voluntary furlough, so there hasn't really been much income change for either of us - in fact, we've both been spending less.
It has meant no more long commutes for either of us. We've got loads of DIY and gardening done, and we've got to spend some quality time together as a couple, instead of just seeing each other in the evenings. We're lucky enough to have quite a lot of space in our house, and a garden, and we don't have kids. We don't know anyone who has contracted the disease, and neither of us has had symptoms. As introverts we've been perfectly happy just going to the supermarket once every couple of weeks. We miss our families, and my parents are shielding, so I worry about them, but... that's it.
I do sometimes feel a bit guilty about the above, and haven't really discussed it too much with other people as I know some people are struggling so much. But, as other people have described, where's the good in being miserable for the sake of it? Seeing as my life at the moment is peaceable - I am sleeping and exercising well, and being productive - why shouldn't I take the conscious decision to enjoy it? Surely the best thing anyone can do is make the best of a bad situation? All I can do is continue to socially distance, take the necessary measures, and donate to charities that need it - all of which I have done.
I understand that for those really struggling it would be hard to hear that others are actually enjoying this, but why then decide that if you're not happy, no one should be?
Ps: OP, if you are struggling personally, . I'm really sorry. I really hope that it eases up soon, just for the sake of those who are up against the wall.
No, I don’t think it’s bad taste.
Personally, lockdown has exacerbated my anxiety and depression and I would rather it would end but I would never judge someone for finding the good in this time. Truth be told, I was quite enjoying it until I crashed at about 6 weeks! I think lots of people have realised they like a slower pace of life and working from home, which is great as long as they understand that for some of us those things don’t suit us.
I have really found the positives during lockdown. Initially I found it very hard but now I'm embracing it. I don't feel guilty because it suits my circumstances and not other peoples. It's been terrible for a lot of people who have lost people, lost jobs and have difficulties at home. That doesn't stand to reason that some people can't enjoy a slower pace of life for once.
For me personally, Lockdown is a really enjoyable time.
I'm working but the stressful parts if my job have been taken away and I have a better work-life balance. I'm sleeping more and reading more. My dd is 17 so has no problems with home learning and as she is chatting to friends online. I haven't had to worry about her mental health during this time. Having her with me all the time takes away a lot of the worries that being the mum of a teen brings. I'd anticipated Easter being a frustrating time because we'd had a really special holiday cancelled; instead I ended up enjoying just being in the garden. I thought that I'd miss the gym but I've got into running. I'm autistic and like how people try to socially distance in shops. I've only heard planes for the last few days; up until then it's been so peaceful in the garden. Most roads near me are still fairly quiet so you can run into the road to get out of the way. I'm lucky enough to live in part of the country that has had comparatively few cases. I don't know anyone who has been ill let alone hospitalised. For me personally there are many positives and very few negatives.
But I still wish that the pandemic had never happened and that it will be over soon. I still get sad when I see the numbers or hear stories of other people's suffering. I still get angry when I think about how many of those deaths have been caused by our incompetent government's mishandling of the situation.
The 2 aren't mutually exclusive.
I don't think there is anything wrong with making the most of it .
I'm enjoying the fact I don't need to set my alarm , I'm going for a run , cleaning then sitting in the sun if nice .
I'll be honest I've got used to it so if this carried on for a few more weeks we can do it .
But it's not living in my opinion I like my job , dc not at school and can't see family/ friends go anywhere.
Short term it's doable but long term and the worry for the future that's hard .
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