I’m in late 30s. Married, 3 kids. In the last few months (or years??) our sex life has been very poor. I’m deeply frustrated and I don’t know what to do.
The 12yr old goes to bed around 9pm but doesn’t really sleep until 10-1030pm. We also have 5yr old twins. They share a room (we have 2 single beds in their room) but DS started sleeping in our bed last year when he was ill and it has now become permanent. Since last summer, I started sleeping in his room as it was getting too tight for 3 people.
My libido is crazy these days. DH is’nt bothered about sleeping separately. He sometimes asks if I want Sex and if I am not already asleep by then, we do it in the living room downstairs. It’s all done in 15-20 mins constantly worried the 12 yr old will walk in. I hate it. I really hate going down for it - it’s a mood killer. That too, we do it only once a month!!
I’m reasonably fit and attractive. I don’t know what the problem is. DH says I sleep too early. I sleep right after the kids sleep as I have to wake up at 5am for work on most days.
The 12 year old is going to BILs house for his cousin’s birthday dinner and games tonite ( BIL lives 5 mins away, DS is the only guest, they are playing some party games while social distancing in the garden. Pls don’t have a go at me for this). He’ll be back around 11pm. I was hoping for a good time today, but ended up arguing with DH over his shit show in everything (doesn’t do much housework etc). Obviously no sex tonite. I don’t want it. But I need a release.
Any thoughts on wtf (no pun intended) should I do?
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Married, but very poor sex life - frustrated
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Flower34 · 26/05/2020 19:57
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