Sis doesn’t believe in Corona virus and so has been spending time with friends while staying with a friend for the past few weeks while furloughed (and lonely). She’s had a fall out with friend she’s staying with and so DM is having her to stay for a few days before she returns to London at the end of the week. They have gone on several “family” days out this week excluding me and DS.
I had a fall out with DBro and SIL but have somewhat patched things up during lockdown, as in I’ve apologised and made efforts to make mends which has been received, acknowledged and I’ve had a couple of messages of thanks from SIL.
Sis seems to prefer it when me and SIL are not friends and when she can play “Best Aunty” to DNeices. I don’t deny that I’m jealous but me and sis are very different people and have a different relationship with bro, especially since the fallout and all the shit that brought about (which I admit mostly was my fault). I’m the only one of us (DM, sis, bro, SIL) that is not on furlough and DM said I wasn’t invited on their walk because she knew I was working (I’m currently working mornings).
DS (12) has ADHD & ASD and as we live close by, would go up DM’s a couple of times a week after school to see her/watch TV and get treats, as well as once a month overnight. Since lockdown, he hasn’t been round at all and has really struggled lately not having time with her and his (fantastic autism trained) childminder who he saw once a month. I‘ve spoken with DM and we agreed she’d start to have him again for a few hours a couple of times a week to go for a walk or similar and we were talking about starting it next week, when the June 1st school stuff starts.
Neither me or DM drive and I help out getting her shopping when I have my home delivery. At the moment, I’m waiting until her universal credit payment comes through to get repaid what she owes me for the last couple of shops. Both sis and bro drive but do not offer to help her.
Now she’s got DSis staying with her, who has visited a few different friends already, as well as having drinks with some neighbours who aren’t self isolating and so she now can’t have DS next week like we agreed.
I’ve been really stressed over the last week because DS is becoming increasingly challenging and I was looking forward so much to some relief next week. I feel like DM can’t say no to either bro or sis but has essentially said no to me re having DS by having sis to stay. I’ve told her that I’m no longer doing her shopping for her.
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ChristmasChaos · 26/05/2020 18:09
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