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To be furious BIL is making us look bad to save his skin?

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Inoneminute Tue 26-May-20 08:53:08

BIL and his wife have a 4yo. They went to stay on his parents estate 5 hours drive away breaking all lockdown rules. Because of his high profile job in government this has become something of an issue.

In order to defend the trip he's telling the papers that they had no choice, they were worried that they would both become so ill they couldn't care for DN and had to go so far to be near suitable childcare.

We live around the corner. Of course, in the unlikely event that BIL and SIL both became so unwell they couldn't care for him, we'd have looked after him.

I don't know if they think we'd we unwilling or we are unsuitable but they didn't even ask.

AIBU to be furious this is the story he's using to justify his actions?

grin Sorry, I'll get my coat....

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Mycatismadeofstringcheese Tue 26-May-20 08:54:34

Well he says the option wasn’t there, but then later he says he didn’t ask do YANBU.

Mycatismadeofstringcheese Tue 26-May-20 08:54:49


Nearlyoldenoughtowearpurple Tue 26-May-20 08:57:05

Don’t take it personally and feel bad
I think the issue was that your BIL had covid related eyesight issues, poor chap couldn’t see to read his address book and come find you. Luckily he could remeber the way to his parents house, 250 miles away so all good in the end.
Not your fault at all flowers

donquixotedelamancha Tue 26-May-20 08:58:06

YABU. He was just following his instinct as any parent who really loved their child would.

Also he needed to drive to the healing waters of Barnard Castle to cure his eyesight.

Teacher12345 Tue 26-May-20 08:58:20


Flowersinthewild Tue 26-May-20 09:00:40


PrincessHoneysuckle Tue 26-May-20 09:02:32

Oh God not another one

Bloomburger Tue 26-May-20 09:03:03

Oh FGS, he's one man, he is no worse than the dickheads milling about on beaches over the weekend.

Will you guys get a life and stop banging on about him. People are still dying, the economy is fucked, people will be dying for years due to the socio economic results of the lockdown and there could be a second curve in which more people will loose their lives.

You'd have thought the media had forgotten anything else was happening too.

Do you remember the phrase Be Kind?

Take the higher ground and stop being so fucking nasty.

InfiniteSheldon Tue 26-May-20 09:03:28

Yabvu I'd support my dB 100% what a horrible person you ate bet you were one of the school bullies too. Do you jump on every bandwagon going? If so you'll get a sore arse.

overandoverafail Tue 26-May-20 09:05:59

Haha OP this really made me laugh! And to the people defending him with, there's worse things happening, covid is serious etc, we are all fully aware of the implications of Covid which makes his piss poor decision making even worse. Why he thought he was exempt from self isolating when someone in the household is showing covid symptoms I will never understand. He put people at risk! The guy you are asking us to 'be kind' to could be the reason somebody you love dies as he is clearly above the rules being used to contain the spread!

Inoneminute Tue 26-May-20 09:06:18

Do you remember the phrase Be Kind?

Take the higher ground and stop being so fucking nasty.

Did you read that back? gringringrin

Isn't it because people are still dying that this is such an important issue?. It gives the impression that the rules aimed to control the virus don't always apply

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Flowersinthewild Tue 26-May-20 09:06:30

@Bloomburger totally agree with your post! This family may have or may not have done wrong in people’s eyes but the abuse he is getting now is vile, the poor 4 year old must wonder what is happening outside his home with all the shouting etc. Even Cummings parents are getting abuse at their home. It’s wrong and like you say there is so much more going on right now. How some people live with theirselves I will never know. angry

SorrelBlackbeak Tue 26-May-20 09:08:11

The problem with this is, is that there are three routes to releasing lockdown:

1) vaccine - not likely to be available in sufficient quantities until 2021 and no one is sure how well it works

2) 'herd immunity' much higher death rate, swamping the NHS, bad for the Conservative party and makes the initial lockdown entirely pointless; or

3) track trace and isolate. This only works if people download the app, allow it to track their movements and then isolate. If any of those are broken by people following instincts, or just using common sense or whatever else, we're back to option 2.

That's why it matters.

ConstanceSalinger Tue 26-May-20 09:09:51

"hey dad, can I come and stay at yours because we think we've got covid?"

"Hey son, no, thats a stupid idea, get well soon though!"

Wasn't just DC on his own that made stupid decisions here was it.

slashlover Tue 26-May-20 09:19:04

How many of these do we need?

Nosurveysneeded Tue 26-May-20 09:30:56

To be honest you were a bit too close for him to be able to see if his eyes were working properly so yabu of course he needed to go further.

Anyway, how can you compete with Barnard Castle fresh air and mummies birthday?

Now stop being so ackward and toe the line and admit you actually said you couldn't help him and stop spoiling things for him - he is very important you know.

onalongsabbatical Tue 26-May-20 09:31:08

YABU for being at all related to a weasley rat, even by marriage. Some poor choices there op. grin

SunshineCake Tue 26-May-20 09:31:15

I miss the days when made up threads were funny.

Mucklowe Tue 26-May-20 09:32:19


jerometheturnipking Tue 26-May-20 09:33:58

YABU for starting yet another thread about the odious weasel.

Herpesfreesince03 Tue 26-May-20 09:36:01

Yawn 🥱

slipperywhensparticus Tue 26-May-20 09:36:57

🤣🤣🤣 I did comment that his london friends and family were probably very glad right now that they are not considered friends or family and are probably bringing a whole new dimension to the term social distancing

He acted wrong if he owned it and apologised I would be ok with it but he wont because he is above all that

If people are harassing him he can call the police like the rest of us they have the right to disperse fine even taser people especially if they are distressing his child it's his choice he should do what he feels is right

FizzyGreenWater Tue 26-May-20 09:38:26

I thought you said you were getting your coat?

Yes it’s an important issue but cringy unfunny threads are still shit.

LovingitlikeTHIS Tue 26-May-20 09:38:45

Do people really think they're being witty and original with yet another thread to add to the already too numerous and too boring others?

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