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Boyfriend in garden ..not breaking rules?

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onestepat · 25/05/2020 16:30

My friend has been preaching about people breaking rules etc
Today her boyfriend (who doesn't live with her ) is in her garden.
She says it's allowed.
They are keeping the correct distance apart apparently.
I thought it was only meeting in public space ?
Aibu to think it isn't allowed ?

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Di11y · 25/05/2020 16:45

yes technically public space not garden.

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LunaMuffinTop · 25/05/2020 16:52

My neighbours are having a garden party with people from the street I’ve not see my family in 9 weeks because I’ve been sticking to the lockdown rules but apparently the rules don’t apply to my neighbours or Dominic Cummings.

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Solina · 25/05/2020 16:55

Tbh I can't see any difference with sitting in your garden with the correct distance to sitting in the park with the correct distance. The virus doesn't know where you are...

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Comefromaway · 25/05/2020 16:58

I’d say a private Garden was safer as you don’t run the risk of others coming too close.

We’ve had the in laws over. Mil has dementia & fil is at the end of her tether with her in a tiny terraced house with no garden. He was having counselling for suicidal thoughts last year. I consider it essential care.

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HappyHammy · 25/05/2020 16:59

I think a garden is safer than a public place as long as social distancing is maintained and you dont go inside

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purpleboy · 25/05/2020 17:03

Technically breaking the rules, but I think people need to apply a bit of common sense. Maybe next time she is judging others you can point out she also bent the rules to suit herself.

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Aragog · 25/05/2020 17:04

My bil is here this afternoon with our two nieces. They are staying at mil's empty house for the week (him and sil are in middle of splitting g so lockdown is tough on them all.) FIL died a few weeks ago during lockdown and mil has stayed with us for the duration as we are closest.

We are all sat in the garden but the two households have a 2m distance. Plenty of room to do so in our garden and no more risk than in a park, expect that the girls have used our downstairs toilet. I will clean it when they've gone.

It's as safe as it can be. Mil is early 70s and I'm in the clinically vulnerable group so we are the most at risk, but as mil and nieces haven't been aware it's fairly minimal risk.

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TheGirlWithAPrince · 25/05/2020 17:06

It wouldnt bother me, no difference between garden or beach or park or street outside house.

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icansmellburningleaves · 25/05/2020 17:08

@purpleboy is that you Dominic!!

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QuitMoaning · 25/05/2020 17:25

I cannot see a problem with people sitting 2m apart in a private garden.

Some people are getting a little bit hysterical especially as less than 1% of population have been infected. A little bit of perspective is a good thing.

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PeachMoon · 25/05/2020 17:31

@onestepat Depends where you are - in NI we are allowed to meet in our gardens?

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GoldenPoppy · 25/05/2020 17:50

I'm vunerable and haven't been out much, my friend did pop into my garden for 5 minutes for a quick chat after collecting a prescription for me. I have a large reasonably large garden with side access which I left open.
He sat on an old plastic chair which I then sprayed when he left. I felt far safer doing this than sitting on a public bench we were at least 3 meters apart at all times.

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Khione · 25/05/2020 18:03

Is it safe - Yes
Is it your business - No

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purpleboy · 25/05/2020 19:55

@icansmellburningleaves ooops bustedBlush

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Windyatthebeach · 25/05/2020 19:58

Maybe no gardens incase you need the loo? Hard to say no to a desperate reli needing a wee!

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Grobagsforever · 25/05/2020 20:05

Don't you anything better to do than judge your friend OP?

I expect you live with partner...

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Clemmieandareallybigbunfight · 25/05/2020 21:28

Dd and her boyfriend have spent a lot of time in our garden. I followed my instincts Grin

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Twillow · 25/05/2020 21:36

Apparently it's ok if she cares a great deal about him. Grin

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NoIDontWatchLoveIsland · 25/05/2020 22:19

We went to PiL's garden today. It's massive, with a heated pool, loads of space to distance.

I used their spare room toilet downstairs. They don't use it at all, there's a door to it off the garden, and I wiped it with antibac wipes after I left. DS peed behind trees in the garden. I took all our food & drinks and we ate outside.

Imho, it was safer than a public place, and DS (age 3.5, who's been starting to go a bit nuts never going anywhere/doing anything) was SO happy to be allowed to go swimming.

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