AIBU by not taking DD abroad to see her dad right now?
Her dad lives a 2-hour flight away in a European country (we also used to live there). The court order says his contact with her should be alternate weekends in that country.
I’ve been insisting he come visit her here in the UK instead the last two months because I’m in my third trimester. Really I’d rather we suspended his contact for a while because he hasn’t been social distancing at all (house parties with his friends) but I want her to see her dad.
He’s reluctantly come here twice but is now saying he’s taking me to court in the UK over it. I really don’t want the stress of another court hearing right now. He’s already taking me to court because he wants to pay less child support than the foreign court ordered and the hearing is next month (a couple of days before my due date). We’ve spent the last two years in court abroad (3 civil cases and 1 criminal - all of which he lost in the end) and I’m so drained by it.
He’s repeatedly said I have to bring her abroad (even though my midwife and doctor say I shouldn’t be flying right now) or that I have to get a family member to bring her (my parents are in their 70s and one has cancer). Apparently I “brought this all on myself” and my “health concerns are my own to fix”.
He earns £100,000/year and owes me thousands in unpaid child support and child benefit (which he fraudulently claimed) and yet he’s furious about spending money to come visit DD in the UK.
He’s finally offered to do both journeys to take her abroad and bring her back to the UK. But I don’t really want her doing all that travelling, mixing with his friends and potentially catching Coronavirus and then me also potentially catching it this close to my due date. WWYD? Let her go?
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AIBU by not taking DD abroad to see her dad right now?
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Rhubarb4Custard · 24/05/2020 22:53
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Am I being unreasonable?
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