Next Door Neighbours

[MyCatTibby]

We live in a semi detached. Our neighbours are a couple who I would say are in their thirties. Last Monday morning I was woken up at around 4:45am by severe coughing from the girl next door. This carried on until Friday when an ambulance turned up and took her away to hospital. She has Covid-19. I know her boyfriend should now be isolating himself for two weeks. However he went out yesterday in his car and twice today. We’ve noticed he’s brought bags back which indicate he could have been shopping although they were not supermarket bags so can’t be sure about that, he could have been visiting parents which is equally wrong I know. Yesterday his parents visited for about three hours. I’m totally shocked. IABU if I report this?

[LaurieSchafferIsAllBitterNow]

really OP??....still maybe she'll die, he'll not be able to pay the bills living alone and he'll be evicted to live in some doss house somewhere

what's he supposed to live on ? fresh air?

you really are living your best life aren't you?

[SuncreamInTheWinter]

This is exactly what the community support groups on fb were set up for - sp people self isolating can get food etc.

Yanbu.

[MoaningMinniee]

You're guessing virtually every single bit of this. You don't actually know that Mrs Next Door has CV. People do get ill with other things too. You have seen some bags that Mr Next Door has brought back, and you're assuming he's either been shopping or visiting his parents.

[Ireolu]

[StoorieHoose]

He could be reusing bags ffs. I use lots of next and m&s bags when food shopping

[AMostExcellentStick]

How do you actually know she has Covid19? There are other nasty things out there which make you cough... or maybe he had it himself and stayed in for seven days?

[vodkaredbullgirl]

[MyCatTibby]

No she definitely has Covid. I asked him over the fence (while social distancing) if he was ok. She works in a care home and he said she’d caught it from there. I said I had spare groceries if he needed and also I had a delivery this week if he wanted me to add anything on for him. He said no.

[Throckmorton]

Why is the OP being unreasonable? The only reason I can see would be if the neighbour has already had covid. If he hasn't, he should be staying in the house

[TabbyMumz]

Yes he probably should be isolating ...but it's not something I'd make a thread about or be thinking of calling the police about.

[MyCatTibby]

@Throckmorton no he hasn’t had it. Yet.

[Throckmorton]

If he's not had covid, actions like his put other people's lives at risk.

[maresydoats]

I'd send an email to Dominic Cummings asking for advice as to what is the best approach here.

Hope neighbour is ok.

[lazyarse123]

Yanbu op. Everybody is frothing about Dominic Cummings, rightly so. The rules apply to everybody. He really should have accepted your help. I work in a food shop and all this flouting of the guidelines is really pissing me off now.

[Throckmorton]

MyCatTibby - then's he's a twat. I bloody hope his poor parents don't catch it from him, or any other person he selfishly puts at risk

[recycledteenager24]

some people are going to take risks op, you know that. you can't argue with stupid or police others.

[MyCatTibby]

I’m worried if he’s going into shops he’s putting vulnerable people at risk. Maybe next time he’s in the garden I could offer my help again over the fence and voice my concern?

[mumwon]

he may have stood at distance or collected her things from where she worked you don't know - if he went shopping he was wrong but as you cant be sure... his family may have come round & kept social distance = they weren't having a party

[Throckmorton]

Probably a good idea, but make sure to prioritise your health - stay at least 6 ft from the guy and then some.

[Boulshired]

But we don’t know he’s been the shops, or if he has been in contact with anyone, all we know is he has been in his car. A local shop by us if you are self isolating or believe you have symptoms leaves your shopping in the car park you give your number plate they place shopping at the back of car and walk away. No contact is made.

[savehalloween]

Mind your own business. It's not your job to police what your neighbours are doing.

Contrary to popular belief, most people are aware of the rules and would not want to risk spreading something to a supermarket full of people. You are curtain twitching and making assumptions.

The last thing someone with a hospitalised loved one needs is a nosy neighbour popping their head over the fence constantly.

[MyCatTibby]

The government rules are if you live with someone who displays symptoms you isolate yourself for 14 days. His girlfriend has not only displayed symptoms but it’s a fact she has Covid-19. Yes I admit I do not know if he’s been shopping but he and his parents were in the garden for about three hours and definitely not social distancing. I just think it’s shocking he thinks it’s ok to leave his house. He should be isolating for 14 days.

[lanthanum]

I guess he may already have had a click and collect order in place, and I think many people feel awkward about asking for any sort of help when they feel completely fit. I'd pop a note through saying "I realise that you'll need to self-isolate and avoid going out at all for the next 14 days, so please do let me know if you need anything. Really no trouble - and maybe you'll be able to return the favour if we have to self-isolate later."

After that, there's not much you can do.

[BirdieFriendReturns]

Who would you “report it” to and what do you expect to happen?