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jollybobs89 Sun 24-May-20 20:53:44

So currently sat upstairs ready to crack!!

I have DD who is 2 and a half and a 7 week old baby and just finding it all a bit much!! Cried twice today!

I have a partner who is amazing but obviously he's working at the moment and I'm home alone all week with the children, planned to keep DD in nursery for 2 days to allow me to catch up on sleep and bond with DS. I try get out for a walk everyday at least. DD starting being a nightmare at bed times she's still awake now shouting and playing in her cot. Don't get me wrong I know there's bigger stuff going on right now, but my god this is hard!

Anyone else in this situ ? Trying to keep DD entertained everyday is a job in itself and I feel like she's getting fed up! House is a mess which is also driving me nuts as I'm a clean freak!

Just feel like need to let it out ! Tell me it won't be much longer confused

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Ilovecats23 Sun 24-May-20 21:45:08

Oh I feel for you OP! I have a 20mo and an 8mo and at first it wasn’t easy at all! And even when we went into lockdown I struggled a lot so dealing with both at the same time must be very overwhelming! It definitely gets easier; my two DCs are best friends now and I was only saying to my husband I couldn’t imagine not having two! And for what it’s worth literally everyone I know with young children is struggling with bedtime, I honestly think between lockdown and lighter evenings their routines have been completely blown out of the water, and then add to that a new sibling and it must be a crazy time for her! When my DCs just won’t entertain bedtime I just take them back downstairs and we have however much more playtime is needed and then we try again, or I find all three of us end up crying and stressed! I’m pregnant with number 3 now and honestly so excited so it definitely gets better, or I wouldn’t have entertained the idea of a third so soon! Hugs OP, you’re doing a fantastic job, it’s hard even without a lockdown, be kind to yourself and remember it will pass! flowers

billy1966 Sun 24-May-20 21:55:52

Very hard OP.

One absolutely massive bedtime tip i was given which saved my life when i had my second child was to ALWAYS bring NEW baby up to bed (hide them up in bedroom)while child number 1 was being settled in bed.

This was a total revaluation as it prevents child no 1 being jealous of new baby being downstairs with parents.

This totally saved my life and so much drama when i was given this tip👍

Sarah180818 Sun 24-May-20 22:05:59

You are not alone. I am on maternity leave with a nearly 3 year old and a 16 week old baby. I feel like neither get any quality time with me and I am just bouncing from one to the other. If I play with my nearly 3 year old my baby gets whingy and if I am feeding my baby my toddler gets sulky. I can't keep on top of the house work and going out for a walk is hard work. Definitely not how I envisaged maternity leave. I have shed a fair few tears. I too am hoping things will get easier soon! Take care! My husband always tries to make sure I get some time out in the evening-a long soak in the bath or something.

Bflatmajorsharp Sun 24-May-20 22:09:53

billy1996 oh gosh we did that. Similar age gap as OP.

We used to 'put the baby to bed' in our room so that the toddler could see, then one of us settle the toddler and the other sneak the baby downstairs.

Sarah180818 Sun 24-May-20 22:10:33

Also... When baby naps I give toddler a snack and his ipad for half an hour so I can have a quick tidy up and a cup of tea!
Oh and lots of wine in the fridge!

justasking111 Sun 24-May-20 22:10:51

This is the hardest time for any mother, I raised three who are now raising their own. The mind numbing exhaustion is unbelievable. You will all get into a routine when baby starts weaning and is not feeding a gazillion times a day.

billy1966 Sun 24-May-20 22:28:38

@Bflatmajorsharp
3 year age gap and we were loosing our minds fromnthe sudden huge drama from eldest.

He had always popped off to be no bother but once the second arrived, enormous drama.

Was EBF so couldn't see my head from my toes and couldn't figure it out.

Total revelation which solved the problem immediately.

Couldn't believe it.
He was jealous.

Once he heard and saw me say"night, night, putting baby X to sleep"...gone for 2 or 3 minutes...he hopped into bed and was asleep.
Greatest baby gift EVER grin

Sadie789 Sun 24-May-20 22:30:29

Yes, 3.5 yo and a 9 month baby that is relentless.
It’s very hard.

I don’t really have any practical advice other than to say I get it.

Let’s just pray the nurseries open up again soon!

Riotgirlxxx Sun 24-May-20 22:38:16

Yeah almost 3 year old and a 16 week old here. My partner is wfh about half the time or I honestly think I would have had a breakdown.

I feel guilty for thinking it but I wish I could just go back to work and have some normality 🙁

jollybobs89 Sun 24-May-20 23:16:44

Oh I'm so glad to here that I'm not alone as I feel bad for feeling like this!

It's like Groundhog Day at the moment haha at least my partner gets to go to work and have a change of scenery! My weekly Tesco shop truly feels amazing at the moment when I get to go on my own haha.

I always come upstairs with the baby whilst the other goes to bed, another thing is she still has her bottle at bedtime and I need to get rid of this! Going to be so hard should have done it ages ago but I needed sleep!

Plus I'm drinking wayyyyyy more than I normally do but I suppose so is everyone!

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jollybobs89 Sun 24-May-20 23:22:03

Also I feel like if I get her up to play when she doesn't go sleep I've no chance of getting her back into a routine?

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