I know asking this is a bit BU but I am so worried about him and I know he is in bits but is trying to be stoic and manly... anyway...
Just before Christmas, DH noticed blood in his urine. He went to the GP, was referred to the hospital, had a cystoscopy, diagnosed with 3 non invasive bladder cancer tumours.
He had them removed (TURBT) on Feb 19th and his follow up visit revealed he had grade2 stage 2 bladder cancer. He was told he would have a further biopsy and providing that was ok they would give him BCG treatment.
He was scheduled to have this in early April but this was cancelled due to Covid 19. So Friday he had another cystoscopy and they said they could see more tumours. They wouldn’t let me be with him so he didn’t ask any questions, mainly because he was dealing with the discomfort of the procedure and was a little knocked back by this news.
We will have to wait for at least 2 weeks to hear what will happen next. We presume a further TURBT to remove these tumours.
My question is does this mean his cancer has changed grade or stage? And if so, will his treatment still be BCG? And what statistically is his 5 year survival chance?
I think it unlikely that I will be allowed to accompany him to any appointments or treatments so I will need to write down any questions for him to ask. He is very quiet and reserved so likes me to go with him to ask these questions and finds it difficult to pose any himself. What should I ask that will give us the best information regarding his future? We both like to know so we can plan. Not knowing is frightening us both, because we stupidly think the worst and agonise over what may or may not happen. Knowing and planning gives us structure.
Thanks everyone.
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Tadghthepup · 24/05/2020 19:51
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