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Has your child played with another child?

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Thecovidblues · 24/05/2020 17:48

Just curious, noticed a lot of people from kids schools on their friends drives and in one case, walking with a friend and parents.

So have you let your child play with another child from another household?

I’m tempted tbh. Kids are suffering massively. We have been so strict since the start but feel like taking them to see one friend won’t hurt and the benefits to their mental health will outweigh the risks? But unsure.

YABU - No I would not/have not let my kid see another child
YANBU - yes I have/I would

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SorrelBlackbeak · 24/05/2020 17:54

Online yes, in real life, not yet.

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WoollyMammouth · 24/05/2020 17:56

Well they go to school as I’m a keyworker so yes. Not outside of that though.

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AdriannaP · 24/05/2020 18:00

No but I do see lots of playdates in my local park. Think it’s a bit irresponsible tbh

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Dontforgetyourbrolly · 24/05/2020 18:03

I haven't until today . Ds saw his school pal at the park ( both yr 1 ) and they were racing each other.
I figured after 9 weeks people know the risks and I hope they wouldn't be in the park if they had covid/ been in contact with covid.
Both boys were so happy.

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lyralalala · 24/05/2020 18:04

No. Only their cousins who moved in with us when schools closed.

The only play they've had with kids in the street has been via walkie-talkie for things like bingo and "When I went on holiday"

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Dontforgetyourbrolly · 24/05/2020 18:05

At some point we have to move forward and how long do we want to isolate our children for ?
I'm talking about families where no one is shielded.

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Fuzzyspringroll · 24/05/2020 18:05

Yes. DS had a playdate here at home last weekend and we had a bbq while the kids played. We are abroad, though, and two families meeting up isn't against the rules.
He'd not seen his friends since the beginning of March.

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GlitteryUnicornSparkles · 24/05/2020 18:06

Nope. DS has played with friends online but thats it.

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Ouchy · 24/05/2020 18:07

We did this last week and our children kept social distance. This isolation has been unfair on children and some - I suspect - have suffered as a result. Luckily my child is old enough to socially distance so was able to interact with his buddy in the park within the new government specified rules.

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CrowCat · 24/05/2020 18:07

Now we're allowed to meet one person outside of our own household I assumed that extends to our children too. So yes, my 9yo DD had her friend in the garden over the weekend, they haven't seen each other for 10 weeks. They were brilliant at social distancing and even had lunch on the grass sat 2m apart. It's done wonders for her morale.

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OutOfHours · 24/05/2020 18:10

None. Not even their cousins.

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TweeterandtheMonkeyman · 24/05/2020 18:10

Yes. On bikes in the street and a quick play in a front garden - only in the last 2 weeks.

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moreofaslummythanyummy · 24/05/2020 18:11

My daughter (12) and her best friend went on a bike ride and picnic together ( food brought from their own house) They promised to social distance so we trusted them. They weren't breaking any rules.
Kids mental health is so important , being locked away from her peers and her routine has really impacted her, i think you have to do what is right for your own child.

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Osirus · 24/05/2020 18:12

Yes - cousins. No non-family.

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AuditAngel · 24/05/2020 18:14

DD2 Only online.

DD1 (13) spoke to a school friend in the park this week, but socially distanced, supervised by his grandmother.

DS popped to his girlfriend’s house to drop off some baking and collect his hoodies she had.

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SpottyBrolly · 24/05/2020 18:16

Yes, their mental health and wellbeing has been quite heavily impacted. They play outside with 2 children from the same family. Tomorrow one of them is going to see their best friend in their garden without me. Obviously it's up to you and you need to do what's right for your family.

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devildeepbluesea · 24/05/2020 18:18

Yes I have. She was suffering terribly with loneliness and her best friend lives round the corner. We met up in fields and they messed about together. I'm not vulnerable, she isn't and either is her friend or her family.

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FraterculaArctica · 24/05/2020 18:20

No, too young to go out on their own so they can't meet with another child without violating the one-person rule.

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wedding2021 · 24/05/2020 18:20

Only online, not in person.

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waitingforadulthood · 24/05/2020 18:21

Mine haven't and won't until rules change, but I see swarms of children out together. I do judge.

Sadly the lockdown has revealed to me that a lot of dds friends have irresponsible parents. Not just allowing them to roam the streets, but also having zoom calls at midnight, complete un limited access to internet and games etc. She's 11.

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greysome · 24/05/2020 18:21

Yanbu. Dd4 had a play with one of my friends DS this week. Me and friend kept social distance and we were in a field. The children didn't keep 2 meters apart but no hugging or wrestling etc, they just ran around and played. They are both only children and neither had played with another child since March. None of our family or my friends family are shielding and both children were becoming down and withdrawn. When they first saw each other they both jumped on the spot repeatedly screaming and laughing, it was heart melting. I understand there are risks but I personally felt the benefits to DD far outweighed them in our circumstances.

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Mintjulia · 24/05/2020 18:22

No. We’ve had what’sapp calls between kids. And we’ve cycled past friends’ houses and waved & had a distanced chat. But that’s all.

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Kitsandkids · 24/05/2020 18:23

A kid and his dad knocked on ours today to ask my 11 year old to ‘play out.’ He’s only met this kid once. I said no. If his best friend turned up in the street then I might let him go and talk to him, keeping a 2m distance, but not a child he barely knows. Especially as my child is unlikely to keep a 2m distance and I had no idea if this family would enforce it.

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Itisbetter · 24/05/2020 18:24

No of course not.

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polkadotpixie · 24/05/2020 18:25

No because he's only 20 months old but I would if I knew anyone willing to meet up with us. I'm very worried about the impact on his social development, he's only seen me and his Dad for 10 weeks, that's a large proportion of his short life

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