A few weeks ago I caught DP doing something which meant he'd been lying and deceiving me for years - a lot would class it as cheating online (festish sites etc) but I decided I could get past it given that it was neither physical or emotional (cyber infidelity). He did become very transparent and told me everything. However, I had an inkling of the lies for years and he made me feel crazy and often said I was off the mark. A lot of things I was wrong about but that's because I knew there was something so I couldn't figure out what the deceit was.
Anyway - in order to actually attempt to forgive and move on I said I wanted to attempt counselling and work on our relationship. DP has been good until his friends said in August they want to go for a UK holiday together.
I have taken the whole of August off work (they want us to use annual leave and I wanted a break) and DP is also off work - I did this with him knowing it was to work on us and go on some trips if coronavirus allows.
He has lost his temper now. He sees it as me restricting and controlling him - I think it's just the right thing to do. He can go for a weekend with them another time, not when I've purposefully taken time off to work on our relationship.
So who is BU?
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Who is wrong- me or DP?
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kylita · 24/05/2020 15:05
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