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Aibu to make my 'friend' move her horse from my field?

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lonelylou09 Sat 23-May-20 19:45:51

Hi mum's netter.. Advice appreciated please.
5 year ago I was lucky enough to take over a field near my house for my horse. I was sharing with someone and then she moved so my best friend talked me into letting her put her horse in the field too.
To cut a long story short I was reluctant as she is very lazy and very tight with money even though she is much more well off than me financially. But she promised to pay her way and pull her weight.
So for 3 years it was just as if expected, with me doing all the work with both the field and the horses and also always having to chase her for money.
So last year I sold my horse and agreed that she could use the field for a year while it was still under my name. She paid the rent to the landlord in advance and moved a mutual friends horse in.
She knew I was devastated over selling my horse and I thought she would let me help out with hers as and when like I had before. I said to her that I would like some form of payment for items is bought but couldn't sell because her horse was using them... Fencing, watering equipment, gates ect.
She said she'd discuss it with her husband and let me know.
So a year down the line and she's not spoken to me once since the day my horse was sold, her husband has badgered me everytime I've seen him to sign the contract over to them while telling me they won't give me any money for any of my things as they are worthless or they have broken them anyway. The mutual friend who moved her horse in unfriended me at the same time and hasn't spoken to me since.
So... Am I being unreasonable to give them both their marching orders?!!
I wish to buy another horse and be in my field without people there how don't speak to me, don't look after their horses and will be a pain in the arse to get the money out of...
I've got other horse friends who will pay me that are no problem so it then won't cost me anything for my horse.
She has technically one week left that she has paid for even though she still owes me money from before.
Just wondering how others view this situation and how to go about telling her to sling her horses somewhere else.

1FootInTheRave Sat 23-May-20 19:48:32

You'd be crazy to sign the field over.

Give them notice and get rid asap.

littlejalapeno Sat 23-May-20 19:49:07

Yeah do it, why are you even waiting?

Aclh13 Sat 23-May-20 19:49:17

Absolutely not being unreasonable. I would give them a reasonable amount of time to collect their "possessions" from your land and if they return after trying to gain access to field say they can have them back for a holder's fee if they refuse sell the animals on!

Coldhandscoldheart Sat 23-May-20 19:49:58

Could the land use a rest? That might be an easy out. Particularly if they haven’t been very particular about poo picking.
But of course - send a letter giving notice.

AlpacaGoodnight Sat 23-May-20 19:51:00

Notice straight away and get rid!

FancyARoot Sat 23-May-20 19:53:53

You would be insane to lose your tenancy to these people.
Pay for the next year and give them notice.

But don’t be surprised if they go direct to the landlord and gazump you sad

Thatnameistaken Sat 23-May-20 19:54:13

Yes get them off, so disrespectful.

Oldraver Sat 23-May-20 20:03:20

Collect your things and give them a weeks notice

BumpBundle Sat 23-May-20 20:04:18

I'm a tad confused. Are you renting the land? Do you have a tenancy? Are you subletting officially? Do you have anything in writing?
From a moral perspective, you should absolutely be asking them to leave. From a legal perspective, we need more info

Ajollygoodwrap Sat 23-May-20 20:07:40

YANBU. Don't sign over and give them notice.

Nombie Sat 23-May-20 20:17:31

Urgh that sounds awful, get rid of them. They're taking the piss and the husband sounds like he's a bully trying to get his own way. Cut your losses and them out of your life and start anew.

GreenTulips Sat 23-May-20 20:18:42

Put the notice in writing recorded delivery or by text email.

Keep it simple no explanation needed. It is not their concern if you have another horse or break the contract.

FeelingTheBurn Sat 23-May-20 20:19:22

Who owns the field?

Nombie Sat 23-May-20 20:19:47

I also add maybe tell them the landlord wants the land back, then they can't have the lease anyway unless they know who the landlord is and can ask directly. A little white lie could save you a lot of hassle in the future and if they find out later down the line, oh the landlord changed their mind as their plans fell through so they offered it to me again and I accepted.

Tappering Sat 23-May-20 20:20:02


Give them notice. We are now at the end of the year we'd agreed that you could share the field. I won't be renewing our agreement. Please ensure that you vacate by <date>.

FeelingTheBurn Sat 23-May-20 20:21:15

I'm asking because you refer to "my field" but yet say this:
She paid the rent to the landlord in advance and moved a mutual friends horse in

So who is actually renting the field from the landlord?

TorkTorkBam Sat 23-May-20 20:23:01

Get rid immediately.

Elieza Sat 23-May-20 20:23:33

They break things so they think they don’t have to pay? Sod that. They are using bastards. Give them whatever period of notice is appropriate.

However prior I’d make sure that the landlord is clear you want to keep the land without them and renew the lease yourself before you tell your ‘friends’ anything as they will approach the landlord and try and get the lease themselves and put you out.

Defo renew first. In fact I’d speak to landlord ASAP as I bet they are thinking about how to pull a fast one on you right now....

Geepee71 Sat 23-May-20 20:24:16

I'd check with landowner than you are still tenant, pay for the next year and given them written notice.

SionnachGlic Sat 23-May-20 20:26:13

I agree with BumpBundle... morally YANBU but you need to be confident that you are in the right from a legal point of view in terms of the tenancy/sub-let. What starts as a favour can have unintended consequences... if the law is on your side, serve notice now & get rid of her & her horse.

How cd this person have been your best friend but just cut off contact with you? Did ye fall out about the land use or rent or something before you sold your ? And she has her husband bully you? She sounds nasty. And who has been tending to her horse this past year? I hope not you.

MoonahStone Sat 23-May-20 20:27:33

Why do you think you are still the tenant OP?

SionnachGlic Sat 23-May-20 20:28:00

*...sold your horse..?

POP7777777 Sat 23-May-20 20:30:00

Get rid of them! I don't understand why you're asking?

CoraPirbright Sat 23-May-20 20:35:30

So neither now speak to you? Totally get rid of the using bastards!!

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