Wondered if anyone had any advice.
My dh is a workaholic. He's wfh at the moment, I'm on maternity leave with our second child (3 months) and also have our dd (4) at home. We've had a rough few months as the birth was a bit traumatic, baby doesn't really sleep and dh was very sick for 3 weeks with corona.
Since getting better he's been working non-stop. He gets up (we're in separate rooms as he need sleep to be able to work) showers, starts work and works until after the kids bedtimes. I drop lunch off outside the study. He's working the whole time, its a demanding job and I'm not doubting the stress and pressure.
But I am becoming resentful at the lack of support... I'm up practically all night (3 hours sleep is a great night) and trying to keep my 4 year old engaged all day. I have all the housework and cooking to fit in too. Basically, I'm exhausted. I've been feeling unwell for the last few days and would just love a few hours support. Or him to get up a few minutes earlier and have the kids so I could shower.... anything really.
We have talked about it, he is sympathetic, promises to help but he just can't fit it in. But I'm on mat leave and so he does see childcare and house stuff as my job for this period.
I'm worried for our marriage - I am resentful at the lack of help, he is under huge pressure at work and still recovering from corona and we just don't seem to be able to find any common ground or sympathy for the other person. Any advice? Anyone been through similar?
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adag · 21/05/2020 19:55
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