My best friend is getting married next year and during lockdown down they’ve got engaged and I’ve been asked to be maid of honour.
We’ve known each since tots and went through all of school together. Typical friendship of all first together and spend the major of our teens throwing parties between our houses drinking bizarre ‘cocktails’ of stolen parents booze which lasted through uni holidays until she met her other half and I moved away a few years ago.
She met her other half at her niche hobby (she had loads growing up - between us we knew half of the city we grew up in) and she is still fairly social when she can get away from her other half. She’s a bubbly friendly social thing who gets on with anyone she meets she’s got a large family/colleagues/school friends/uni friends/close old house mates etc etc.
Her DP was her first partner and she fell madly in love but DP is very clingy. I honestly haven’t seen her just the two of us for maybe two years as every time I invite her over DP comes trailing behind. At first it was because DP didn’t know anyone in the area and saw me then as a ‘mutual’ friend.
Anyway, that’s the backstory. I’m now planning the ‘sten’ do - which is now joint (she doesn’t really want this but going along to keep DP happy) as they have a lot of mutual friends. But she has loads and as I say DP is very clingy so she won’t be able to put her hair down - I’m not talking doing drugs but dancing away at 4am to spice girls.
Do I go along with mutual ‘sten’ do and plan a separate ‘surprise’ hen do or do I put my foot down and demand a separate hen do or do I just do what they ‘want’. I can imagine as ‘DP’ doesn’t have many friends that’s why they’re doing a joint party - knowing what DP is like I’ll probably be in the dog house the next 5 years.
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‘Sten-do’ to plan a separate ‘hen’ do.
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Stanzasranza · 21/05/2020 16:09
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