To visit my Dad in his garden?

[BrokenBrit]

Key info: my dad has had Covid and made a full recovery. He isn’t especially vulnerable. He has now injured his ankle and so can’t drive or meet in the park. I’ve not seen him since Mid Feb when he came home from Italy with Covid. He lives on his own, less than an hour from home. I would be able to hold my bladder for a 3 hour in total trip and wouldn’t go in his home or have a drink.
I haven’t broken any lockdown rules or even met anyone for a walk, so I am feeling anxious about this but he is becoming increasingly isolated and lonely. He suggested I could pop over this weekend and sit at opposite ends of his garden? I think it seems low risk all round tbh but I am worried I am losing all perspective at the min!

[PammieDooveOrangeJoof]

You can meet one person 2 m away outside so can’t see why not

[Mrsjayy]

Just go take him some shopping will relieve your guilt.

[CherryStoneTree]

Depends if you’re in England/wales etc I guess?

[foamrolling]

I would. I met my parents up a mountain this week - very much against the rules in Wales but also very much low risk. We kept 2m apart the whole time. My mum has been struggling with lockdown and missing us all. I'm happy to break the rules to safeguard her mental health as its less risk than some of the stuff we're actually allowed to do.

[happystory]

I don't see the problem and sounds like he needs it

[Mrsjayy]

We don't have that 1 person rule here yet but how does that work out how do you choose what if you have adult. Children do you choose your "favourite" to meet in the park

[SausageSimon]

I don't see the harm, we've isolated for 9+ weeks and so have my parents. We sit in their garden with them several times a week now and just sit well apart from each other.

We're trying to use common sense instead of following word for word

[SebandAlice]

Yes I would. If he had it already and lives alone he won’t have caught it again. I am very cautious but would feel comfortable using his toilet in those circumstances.

[BrokenBrit]

Thank you all, seems a consensus and I feel it would do him good. I’ll pack him some loo rolls and biscuits too so I’m not going empty handed .

[Fluffybutter]

Yes , I am on Monday .
You can use his toilet or have a drink if your both sensible with hand washing and cleaning taps/door handles .
I’m taking my dad some well deserved beer

[Fluffybutter]

@Mrsjayy meet one,one day and then the other the next ..

[Fluffybutter]

*you're! Grrr

[Fluffy40]

Have a lovely time with your dad . 😀

[BrokenBrit]

@Fluffy40 - you too, hope he enjoys his beer .

[Mrsjayy]

Oo of course sneaky 😃

[BlueSuffragette]

It will be fine. Go and enjoy spending time with your dad.

[MereDintofPandiculation]

You could do it under the "supporting a vulnerable person" excuse. You need a prolonged chat with him to really work out whether he's coping.

[TotorosFurryBehind]

As someone else said, using your common sense to risk assess the situation is more important than worrying about the exact letter of 'the rules'. I'd use the toilet too, should be low risk if you are careful with hand hygiene.

[Mrsjayy]

My poor friend is tying themselves up in knots "being good" and hadn't seen her dad in months there is no star or badge for making your self miserable worrying about a parent imo.

[EthelMayFergus]

I'm doing the same next week but visiting my dad's brother, I've been practising not going to the toilet for a few hours. Not because of the risk so much as the fact his cleaner hasn't been for two months. I hope you enjoy your visit

[Fluffybutter]

@Mrsjayy@ That’s sad , I don’t see why any can’t if they’re careful .

[Sleepyquest]

Definitely go and see him! I think the risk is extremely low

[mumwon]

take garden tools with you - he is allowed to employ gardener

[mumwon]

(take potty with you if necessary & wear/take full skirt :)

[JacobReesMogadishu]

I didn't realise it was against the rules. One neighbour had her mother over and in the garden yesterday. The other had their adult son over and in the garden.